Would This Bother You?

9 years ago

If your husband came home (almost every Friday night) and layed on the couch about 4:30 or so and got up around 6:00 and wanted to go to bed for the night, would that bother you???

We have only one child still at home who is 16. I would like to go out some Fridays or watch a movie. He lays on the couch after work every night.

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9 years ago

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It would, but maybe he is beat from the work week. Is he better on the weekends? Does he have a high stress job? Maybe he needs to get a physical and see if something is causing him to be so tired, you never know. At least he is home and not out with someone else, if you know what I mean. Now if it turns out he just does not want to do things you should still keep your sanity and do things with your teen or you gal pals. I'm not a doc, just married 34 years. One final thought, what interests him? Maybe do something you know he would like to do. Maybe he is depressed. I strongly recommend he have a physical, as I said you never know what is underlying.

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Embothrium
9 years ago
Maybe it's low testosterone.
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nancylouise5me
9 years ago
It would bother me a bit, but if you make plans for Friday night what would happen? I would make plans and remind him of it. Make them for shortly after he gets home so he doesn't have time to fall asleep in the chair. My husband has a stressful job and sometimes does as your husband does. But, if we have made plans I don't let him fall asleep. He is getting ready to go out or helping me with putting together snacks, or food and drinks if we invited friends over.
mom2eandn
9 years ago
It would bother me if....

1. I made my husband aware this was bothering me and he was not willing to make any changes.

2. I scheduled an outing and gave him advanced notice and he still choose the sofa.

I would suggest having a serious discussion with your husband to determine why he isn't interested in doing more before getting resentful.

I hope everything works out.
popi_gw
9 years ago
Perhaps he needs to have a health check he sounds like he is too tired to move.
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tete_a_tete
8 years ago
It would bother me if my husband did that.

But it very much looks as though your husband is working very hard physically and is exhausted. Been there, done that. I worked outdoors and found the hot sunny time of year particularly difficult.

Do you have a pool? I was thinking about this situation on my dog walk the other day and thought how a bathe in a pool when he gets home from work might be an excellent way of winding down and recovering.

The trouble with a couch is that they won't let you go. They make one want to stay.

So my suggestion is to head to your pool with some refreshing drinks and something tasty to eat. After an hour or so he might be a new man. I think let him find his own 'timing', don't ruin it by telling how long it will take him. He'll need the mental relaxation as well. Good luck and I hope it works.
functionthenlook
8 years ago
Heck I would just go out myself even if is just to the shopping center. I think after a short while he will get curious as to where you are going and what you are doing and want to come. If he asks just tell him you went out for dinner and drinks at a local tavern. Most men are possessive of their wives (even if they wouldn't admit it or show it) and he might want to come. My husband and I do what we call date nights one night a week. We started when the kids got older and we were busy with work. It was time to just get a bite to eat and a few drinks and talk. We are both retired and still do our date nights.
Suzieque
8 years ago
This post is over a year old. It'll be interesting to see if the OP still visits here and has an update to share. Although, she never did post to the thread, anyway, after the original post.

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