Oakley, are you OK?
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Comments (33)I would never have a basement in Oklahoma, most places it would leak and get all musty. Home resale value for houses with basements are not good because of that factor. But, these are older homes I'm talking about. Maybe there are better materials made now to help with that, I don't know. Most people I know have a shelter in their garage floor, but you have to make sure your shelter is registered so they can find you if your home is hit. Sadly, Plaza Towers, where some of the children perished, is an old school, probably not much of safe place in there. Also, what was so bad about this tornado, was it moved so slow, almost sitting in one place just grinding and grinding, compared to most tornadoes that powerful and move quickly across....See MoreUmm, I think a bunch of you owe Oakley $10...
Comments (42)Graywings, I am very sorry you have been going through such a painful time. I believe with all my heart that your decision-making process has been gut-wrenching. I think in fact, that you have probably been going through what must be one of the most difficult things a person can go through. I regard you as a very thoughtful, serious person who would consider the decision to leave a marriage very carefully to say the least. I am glad that you shared your situation and I apologize if you felt slighted, misuderstood or anyway offended or hurt by my words. I was generalizing, & sincerely believe there are acceptions to these generalizations. You offer a real example of one. While I would never condemn anyone for choosing divorce, the nonchalant slant I've perceived in the media regarding it is troubling and inappropriate to me. I heard radio "experts" speak about the Gore divorce as if it was almost going to be fun. She'd pursue her photography & he'd work harder to clean up the environment. When people divorce, they are making a choice of immense gravity. This is not going back to school or starting to work out at the gym. That's how I've heard some "talking heads" and other people frame it. As for the element of fear, I'm really talking about repressed material, emotional baggage, that has not been looked at & dealt with. You are very introspective, Graywings. No doubt, you realize there are a lot of people who are not. You no doubt have seen your share of people entrenched in blaming others, who don't care to look inside. Such externally focused people are incapable of making appropriate decisions. (Much has been written about how our culture is becoming increasingly narcissistic). The answer to baggage and repressed fear is not divorce. There is no answer to baggage and repressed fear except to face them with courage and transcend them. And then you will be a happy person, with someone else, or living by yourself. And then, whatever decision you make will be appropriate, in some way, to your life. Again, you are a self-aware person who has done a lot of inner-work. Reading your posts for over 2 years makes that evident. Getting to know yourself, enhancing your growth and development, is essential for you. I trust that with your acquired wisdom and self-knowledge, you made the choice that was best for you. My heart goes out to you that you have had to go through all this. I will pray that you have all you need to create a good new life for yourself. I wish you all the best on your journey....See MoreOakleyOK, did you see this?
Comments (3)No, I didn't see it! Thanks for pointing it out to me, I haven't been back to that forum since the topic was going, I'm surprised someone bumped the topic back! My dh is using it in his office and it looks great. He actually uses it! Thanks, Nanny!...See MoreOakley! You're the winner
Comments (4)Wow! I haven't been online in a week and I win? Okay, if I recall February was for a romantic bedroom, I need to think of what March can be, all I come up with is the Ides of March. Or wind. :)...See MoreOakley
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