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Amanda Medlin
7 years ago
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Comments (2)The only serious problem I see is the creeping charlie and possibly the unknown clumping grass. If you start with something like Brush-B-Gone now, and repeat applications every two weeks for two months, you should have all the creeping charlie out of there. That should take out the clover and dandelions, too, but there are much easier ways to deal with that. Weed-B-Gone should help with the clover. Just raising your mower all the way up and watering less often will keep the dandelions out. If you want to deal with hard packed clay, the easiest way is to water properly - deeply and infrequently, mow high, and then use organic fertilizer to help with that. The organic fertilizer is not necessary but it is helpful. Next step is to continue to water deeply and infrequently and to mulch mow at the mower's highest setting. Fertilize on the federal holidays if you are using organic fertilizer. Fertilize on the same holidays (EXCEPT 4th of July) if you are using chemicals....See MoreI don't know where to start (long)
Comments (2)To me it sounds like you two never learned how to have an argument. You tell him how to feel, he responds with name calling- didn't your mommas teach you how to fight nice? If not, it's high time you both learned. Honestly, it's like bad playground manners. He's abusing me, I'm abusing him, he started it- SO WHAT?! The point is that neither of you are being very considerate or nice towards each other. And your arguments are accomplishing absolutely nothing- not even a reasonable exchange of ideas. Name calling and telling someone how he should feel is not a point; those are things people do when they have no point. Why argue over nothing? Instead of "Stop feeling hurt" try "It really upsets me to see you hurt. Why do you feel that way?" You'll get a response besides being called a name, I'm sure. Whether or not you're prepared to hear what he says, that's another story; it depends on what he says. The other thing I would say is that it takes 2 people for one to be invalidated- the invalidater and the invalidatee. He has some responsibility to stand up for himself in a civil manner (name calling is not civil). If you both work on expressing yourselves in calm, civil ways then I think you're on much better track to saving the marriage. It will obviously take a lot of work from both of you- you've done it your way for the last 29 years; it's hard to change. Unless you both are willing to put in that effort, I don't think the marriage will be salvagable; communication is key in any relationship. Even if the divorce goes through, still learn how to fight nice- it's a skill that everyone should know because it is more productive than accusations and name calling. I know you really want to make this work, and it's up to him whether or not he does too. You're in for a very long haul- you will have setbacks- be prepared- that's part of the learning process. Good luck....See MoreSOS: Family room unexpectedly gutted and I don't know where to start
Comments (3)I see nansaidh beat me to the punch on suggesting a slip cover sofa. Slip-cover sofas don't look quite as tailored as a non-slipcover sofa, but not schlumpy like an aftermarket slipcover. Casual. I do think farmhouse--because it is EVERYWHERE now--will go out hard sooner rather than later. That said, there are plenty of elements used in the farmhouse style that look perfectly at home with other styles. If you don't go full, extreme farmhouse you'll be fine. You're overwhelmed because you are thinking "I could do anything!" I hope it makes you feel better--or at least the task more manageable--when I say that you really can't. How open is the room to the rest of the house? Unless you want to redo everything, the choices you've already made in other rooms (style, paint colors) should guide you here. This is true even with a closed floor plan, but dramatically true with an open or semi-open floor plan. You don't want to go out on a flyer just because you can. Even though the room is a blank slate, the house isn't. Work with the style of the house and the other undamaged rooms. Your tastes presumably haven't changed, even though you are buffeted by the winds of trends (ahem, farmhouse) like we all are. If you didn't like gray before, you probably won't like it in the long term even if it is currently in vogue. Do you need to choose flooring, or was there one flooring throughout the house and you just need to match it? That would be one choice off your plate....See MoreI don’t even know where to start.
Comments (4)I'd go for a medium/dark toned hardwood or engineered hardwood. I'd stay away from anything red-toned if you are going to keep the dark beams in the ceiling. I like those beams myself and you didn't mention they would be leaving. And that means doing the stairs that currently have carpet. While you're at it I think you'd best make a decision on those railings and room dividers. Do you want them to stay full height like they are or could it just be a railing (code likely calls for at least 36" on that). If you want it to match the flooring then now is the time to do it. Or they could be a different colour - black or white etc, but I think I'd change what you've got there to make it feel more open and less like a jail cell between the dining and living areas. Here are some options. I love a wide plank rather than the more traditional narrow plank but that's personal choice. Many of these are oak, some are maple and hickory. Oak gives more grain. Hickory can be quite variable in colour. Maple tends to be a bit less grain and more solid coloured. You'll want to go to a flooring store and see what you like best. Ideally they'll have some samples you can bring home and try in your space. This one is actually a bit more red than I thought originally.... This one reads a bit grey along with brown. Quite brown but leaning red A little more red I think you'll need to consider your lighting and add to whatever is there now to brighten the rooms up and keep the wall colour on the light side....See More
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