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Re: Satine, let's do a role call!

10 years ago

I just recently changed my log in name. I was Ellendi. I've been a member at the KT since 2009.

I joined at first to get help with my kitchen's backsplash. Then, I discovered the KT. I also like Home Decorating and the conversation side of HD.

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Elmer J Fudd

10 years ago

"I was alisande; now I'm Alisande"

How will anyone know who you are?

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Alisande
10 years ago
Why did you change your name, Ellen? (I liked it.)
Jasdip
10 years ago
Ellendi, now I won't know who you are. Gazania recently changed her name as well. We get used to the former names. Just in case you want to revert your screen name back, you can change it on Your Houzz page. The log-in will be your new name, but we'll see your old one.
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Alisande
10 years ago
Jasdip, what's Gazania's new name?
Jasdip
10 years ago
Alisande, it's lgmd_gaz.
Alisande
10 years ago
Ha! I had no idea. Thanks, Jasdip!
satine_gw
10 years ago
Ok so that might be why I thought so many were missing! Still wonder how many are here who have changed their name.
lgmd_gaz
10 years ago
I (gazania) changed my name because most often Houzz didn't recognize me as a member. Sometimes it did, but most often I had to go through a big process to get in to the table. So I just reregistered with a new name.
kittywhiskers
10 years ago
I am here still as kittywhiskers.
Jodi_SoCal
10 years ago
Was jodi_in_so_calif but that was always too long to type out, especially when I logged on via my iPhone, so when Houzz took over, I changed it to Jodi_SoCal. Been around since pretty much the beginning of time. KT time that is. :-)
Alisande
10 years ago
I was alisande; now I'm Alisande. :-)
eld6161
Original Author
10 years ago
Alisande, I realized that I could be recognized as I use a my name and last name initial at work.
Alisande
10 years ago
I like being mysterious.
kathyg_in_mi
10 years ago
Kathy G in MI hanging around 2001.
User
10 years ago
Mine is still the same
lindaohnowga
10 years ago
Mine is still the same as it has been from the beginning.
lindyluwho
10 years ago
I've always been lindyluwho. I've been here 12 years but don't reply as much as I used to. I spend more time on FB.
ruthieg__tx
10 years ago
Ruthieg...as always
morz8 - Washington Coast
10 years ago
No name changes here. I've been the same since Spike days, 2002...but most of my earlier participation was on the gardening side of things the first several years.
phyllis__mn
10 years ago
No changes here since 1999!
SandieFL
10 years ago
Same name as I joined with. I remember Spike. I got sent on the TeaCups once.
dees_1
10 years ago
Same user name since 1997....was hanging out in garden forums mostly but I've been here a long time. I think it was shortly after the HGTV forum conversion.
rob333 (zone 7b)
10 years ago
Been around since 2002. I was rob333 then and now. I started out on Garden Party. I was really into trying to figure out how to garden, but that was the forum that interested me the most. There was the most erudite group of well-spoken individuals. I miss so many of them. They're almost all gone. Some are still around and/or can be found in other places, e.g. Facebook.
wanda_va
10 years ago
I used to be WandaVA, but when they stopped allowing capital letters, I changed to wanda_va. Hope that didn't confuse too many people....
Yayagal
10 years ago
Where do you find how long you've been here?
rob333 (zone 7b)
10 years ago
last modified: 10 years ago
yaya, If you to to your houzz, just under edit profile in the upper right hand corner, there is a link to show you your "public profile"
skibby (zone 4 Vermont)
10 years ago
Still Skibby.
sjerin
10 years ago
I'm not Yaha, but am wondering where the "public profile" link is--not an option under "edit profile" that I can see....
rob333 (zone 7b)
10 years ago
click on Your Houzz, then your houzz or your username. Then there is square box listed as edit profile. Under that box in the upper right hand corner is the view public profile link

:)
User
10 years ago
Missy_May member since 2012

Would love to change my user name. Poor choice. ugh!

I don't post much either.
Amazing Aunt Audrey
10 years ago
last modified: 10 years ago
Still AAA. Although in my old age I'm not very amazing anymore.

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ravencajun Zone 8b TX
10 years ago
last modified: 10 years ago
Always been Ravencajun still the same. I too don't like the name changes. I had no idea some of the ones mentioned here. You can still have your other original user name with the new account. Just go to your houzz edit profile and down where it ask for name put in the name you want to show here as your name.

Your houzz, edit profile, scroll down to Public profile, first name, displayed name. Put the name there you want to show here
sjerin
10 years ago
Thanks, Rob! I guess I've been here since '06. Well, I started on Kitchens, then found this forum.

MissyMay, why do you think your name is a poor choice? That is the name of my dear friend's kitty, so it's a happy name to me.
pekemom
10 years ago
Still pekemom...might have had a different name years ago but don't remember....
glenda_al
10 years ago
always been the same
liz
10 years ago
I'm not sure how I'm showing up...used to be Liz_ga...who knows what it is now!!
kathi_mdgd
10 years ago
Hey guys,guess who's back??? Just lil ol me,kathimdgd.Been gone for awhile,can't remember how long.Couldn't sleep tonight so came in here,cleaned up my sewing room a bit,then decided to stop by here and see if anyone i remember is still here,and i see a lot of you are.Will catch you all up with my life and what has been going on in it another day,as i was just getting ready to try going to sleep again before i saw this post.

Talk with ya'll later.Nice to see so many of you still here.

Kathi
satine_gw
10 years ago
I am, have been, and always will be Satine.
miss_sistersue2
10 years ago
I was rosebudms. Did not like the way it looked. Like a mess. So I changed. I doubt that anyone missed old rosebud anyway. Many years ago there was a column in the Progressive Farmer written by Rose Budd Stevens that I enjoyed. Now I am Miss Sister Sue. Still not posting a lot! :)
katlan
10 years ago
I've been here a long time also. Way, way back in the beginning, when Spike was running the show I was Kathy-PA (I think?) Then was gone for a bit when it went to a pay site, I lurked but didn't post. When it was no longer pay, I had to re-register for some reason (can't remember now). That's when I became katlan. Real fancy name, first 3 letters of my first and last name, haha.
jae_tn2
10 years ago
I've been here since 2004, not long after my husband died. My name has remained the same. I haven't been here as often as i used to be due to becoming involved in so many other things online. It's nice to be remembered when i do come back.
stacey_mb
10 years ago
I'm a relative latecomer, having been here for about 3 or 4 years. My name has always been the same and I chose it because (to me) it's a shortened version of Anastasia, a name that I have always loved. As a "newby," I didn't know Spike or heard about the tea cups. I assume this wasn't the fun Disney ride! lol!
dparsons918
10 years ago
I've been a member since the mid-90's as coral_ok, but I haven't posted in years, although I do lurk sometimes. I created a new account because I had no idea what my password was and I no longer have my original email address. The funny thing is that it's been awhile since I created this one and I can't remember exactly what name I used. Guess I'll find out when I see my post!
dparsons918
10 years ago
Oh, there I am.
coral486
10 years ago
Never mind. I'm coral again.

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