When friends ask how you are doing
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Comments (13)Lyfia- I understand what you are saying. For our house we decreased the price 25% under market with us paying closing costs because we need to get out. There is nothing so humble as feeling like a rat on a sinking ship. My neighborhood truly feels like it is going downhill. I don't need a market analysis to tell me this. I just need to look at the discarded beer cans on my front lawn. I think my potential sale (keeping finger's crossed) is helped by other listings in my area which are overpriced. I am talking 2007 prices. BTW- I love your term "incurable defects". Makes me feel less like a loser. My home was a source of pride, but in the end it is just worth what someone is willing to pay for it. I don't think potential buyer's gave a rat's behind that the yard was beautifully landscaped, or that the house had fresh paint, slate floors, or new carpet. They just see comparible houses and think "I can make this what I want it to be" and if the prices for a comparable house is lower, they want that house. In the end for a quick sale you need to get serious with the pricing. I did and my neighbors are angry. They can live in 2007 but the reality is that it is now 2013. Things have changed....See MoreDo you Like Visiting Friends or Relatives When on Vacation
Comments (3)I agree that visiting relatives would not be my fav vacation. In fact, "family vacation" is kind of a contradiction in terms. I would like to address this from the other side: family members decide to drop in without calling or arranging beforehand - too rude! We live in S. CA near Disneyland, Universal Studios, Hollywood and all the other tourist attractions. People come here in the hot summer and expect to go to those destinations, which are extremely crowded and uncomfortable in the tourist season. I now just give them directions and say have-a-nice-time. I think family vacations taken together maybe work on a cruise ship or someting. Otherwise it's not very relaxing....See MoreDo you thank Alexa when you ask her a ??
Comments (48)Schoolhouse, it's working out surprisingly well. Rocky (large male about 6 years old) had come in for visits during the day, but Scruffy (small, long-haired female of indeterminate age) hadn't. They both came in at night but were eager to go back outside in the morning. I didn't know how Scruffy would take to such a big change. She tends to be easily spooked. Well, she took to it right away! She's always loved softness and warmth, and that we have. She was a stray when she came to us (Rocky was as well), and now that I've had a lot more interaction with her I think she must have been abused at some point in her life. They've been in the house about three weeks so far. When the weather finally warmed up this week Rocky got restless and would have slipped out the door if I hadn't been careful going in and out. Scruffy doesn't seem interested in leaving. Rocky loves to play and will chase balls as long as I'll pitch them. Scruffy occasionally attacks a catnip mouse, but mostly loves to nap. Rocky's the one with one blue eye. Scruffy got her name when she first showed up. She was such a matted mess that we thought she was seriously ill. Nope, she was just hungry....See MoreTween - how do you say you don't want to be BFFs when someone asks?
Comments (32)Different people use the word "friend" differently, so a lot of this is semantics. I tend to extend "friend" much more broadly than my husband, who has zero people he considers friends. But the lesson is what is necessary to be successful in group situations--manners and civility, which seem to be on the wane in today's society, but I don't think that is a good thing or something I would want my kid to emulate. I have this argument with my husband all the time, knowing what is and is not appropriate to say in group settings. I grew up in a small town, I learned early on to avoid gossip and trash talking anyone, ever. You never know you might be speaking to their cousin or brother-in-law!! :) My grandmother survived in her tiny village in Poland during World War I because she could get along with all sides in the conflict and smuggle resources into her town to keep people alive . . .Hence I grew up with an emphasis of not making enemies although also was taught to have principles and to stand up for them . . . just do so in a way as to not alienate those around me . . . easier said than done . . . Look at all the people who are suffering because of snarky things they have said publicly. I am in the camp that says best to err on the side of civility which is not the same thing as agreeing or supporting things that clash with your values. It's just a matter of knowing how to chose your battles. A good life would not be a constant battle ground, but it is for some people. I would definitely want my child to learn to find some ways to develop inner strength/peace/serenity or whatever the right word is. It's a life long struggle. My Mom's mantra was the "Serenity Prayer." But of course no matter how many times we discussed this concept, it never totally went away because that's life. However, my mother was quite successful professionally because she learned to overlook certain things and just keep moving forward, not get bogged down by drama. As a teacher and person who gives public program and raises money, I had to learn to never, ever speak ill of anyone, it just isn't worth it, life is long, people and circumstances change, one never knows. On the one hand. But on the other hand, if the hitting bothered your daughter and she asked her friend to stop and she didn't, they you daughter has every right to distance herself from that behavior. I would just advise your daughter not to rush to put people in the "friend/not friend" category. Just treat all people with dignity but also you can detach from the drama that troubled people might bring into your life. This is not the strong suit of a teenager, but a good skill to develop. Otherwise, your life could be much more stressful if you don't learn techniques for tamping down interpersonal drama in your life. One has to be able to do what my Mom advised, not make other people's problems your own. You have to be able to be in this world, experience the drama, but not get pulled into it. A good technique is to focus on projects and actions, not personalities. A tough balancing act, one that teenagers have to learn to navigate and it can be tough even for adults. Trust is tricky. There's a whole other dynamic too, being liked vs being a doormat vs being mean and unlike-able. It's just a balancing act we all have to perform . . . Detachment has not been my strong suit, and I've often wondered if it is possible to develop more of it or if it is just in your genes . . . vs passion . . . and then when to hold it and when to play it ???...See Morebleusblue2
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