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My mother died 2 days ago, dad just a year ago. This sucks!
Comments (5)I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing said or done helps,but I do care, that you've had to go through this traumatic experience. My Mom died of ovarian cancer July 3rd 2009. She had the surgery followed by chemo treatments, it was in remission for 4 years. Only to come back again about a year and a half later. More chemo, tons of tests, they switched chemo treatments a few times. We got her into one of the best cancer treatment centers and the end result was, she still died. I seen my mom go through so much with the chemo treatments so I understand your mom's not wanting to go through it =/ I would of insisted Mom do chemo, too simply cause I couldn't bear to lose her. It hurts. It hasn't gotten better so far. In fact sometimes it seems to get worse as I realize, I've never gone without talking to her for so long. I really hope it does get easier for the both of us. Like you my Mom was pretty much all I had. Never been close to my Dad....See More3rd compressor in 2.5 years in DFW?
Comments (6)texasdad, You could have had acid in the lineset from the first compressor failure causing number 2 to fail. or you may have issues of compressor oil return since you mentioned this is the upstairs unit. Since your system is not under a labor warranty the repair will be expensive. Keep in mind the part is under warranty but all the work is not. I would not go back with the original installer, they sell junk and since they cut cost on equipment they probably cut costs on the installation which is probably the main factor of your compressor failures. Their response to you also shows they don't care about their customers as per your experience. Proper compressor change out would include -recovering the refrigerant. - Flushing line sets and equipment to neutralize any acid created by the failed compressor/s. -check for oil trapped in line set when flushing. -Install new compressor. -install heavy duty refrigerant filter drier -Vacuum system to remove air and contaminates from the line set. -Add nitrogen to system for drying effect. -Vacuum system again to remove nitrogen and contaminates. -recharge system with new freon = Freon not warranted so it's costly. -Process the warranty through the distributor there may be a process fee also. This is why it is very expensive to change out a compressor that is under warranty Hope it goes well,...See MoreMy little dog died 9 days ago. I feel guilty and very sad.
Comments (14)Hello everybody, Unfortunately, I am having a relapse triggered by a family fight I had today. As I mentioned in my first post, my relationship with my mom is not good and she is very disrispectful with my stuff and has thrown away very special things to me. Things that I really treasured. Today, I picked up a carped that my mom had removed almost a year ago. She wanted to throw it away, but the carpet was in good condition and I liked it, so I took it to a place to have it washed and storaged. Today I finally got it back home and put it behind a wall in my living room. It was well hidden and it wasn't taking too much room. My mom saw it and started acting like crazy and told me she was going to throw it away tomorrow. I got angry and she started telling me that I had my stuff all over the house, which is not true, and then mentioned that the fact I put my little dog's stuff, like his plate and little bones in the laundry room was a problem for her to. This made me get very angry and I went down the stairs because I wanted to make sure my dog's stuff were safe. suddenly, my uncle, who was at home for a visit, stood up and got between me and my mother because according to him he thought I was going to hit my mom, which is a terrible lie. He dared me to fight and I told him I was not going to accept his attitude in my house. Then he asked me to go outside and I said: OK. Let's go. Next, my brother showed up and my mom to avoid the fight. Then my brother told me he didn't want to fight because he was much heavier than me and that it was going to be easy for him. I said: Come on, let0's do it. And he refused it and said he loved me. Ever since my parents divorced he has interfered in many of my family's issues that are not concer of his and sometimes he has tried to act like the man of the house. Today was the last straw and made me lose my mind. He has brainwashed my mom several times, my mom almost always does what he tells her to do and of course, he usually takes my moms side. All this conflict made me have a psychiological crisis and miss my little dog a lot since I feel very alone again and I have no friend and partner at home to rely on. I really didn't need this since I was starting to feel better about the loss of my beautiful Guyton, to heal, to rearrange my life without suffering too much and feel more peace. On top of that, my Psychiatrist took the liberty to show my mom and my brother my diagnosis file after a visit my mom and my brother made to his office, which was a terrible violation to my privacy and to the confidentiality respect Mental professionals have to have. It's the most basic and important rule. Now, my mom is using this as a weapon and threatening me to send me to a mental hospital because my Psychiatrist also told her and my brother she could do that. It is just unbelievable. He betrayed me and put me in a very difficult position. Specially now that I am trying to overcome the death of my little dog and my mind is unstable. It just looks he also took my brother's and mom's side and they are their patiens not me. Now I am missing Guyton a lot again and their loss became bigger again too. I am lost and sad again. I really hope you can reply to me. Thank you very much in advance for your help and kindness...See MoreGardner Museum: What was stolen 25 years ago
Comments (12)As a child growing up in Boston we ventured to the museums for Sunday afternoon entertainment, thus my great love for art and then to go on to be an artist. This is interesting. Twenty five years ago I was invited (by my Welsh friend) to go with her to find the people who fostered her as a child and I agreed to go but first we would go to France and Italy to visit her friends. In Milan Italy, we stayed at the home of her friend Janet Gardner and her husband who was Italian royalty. It was fascinating as they owned five houses and they took us to spend three days in each one of them. Well on today's date we were in Milan when the news told of the heist. Our hostess became undone, crying and shaking etc. Her husband then told me that she is a descendant to Mr. Gardner and she was working in the museum when he saw her on a visit to the U.S. Mr. Gardner had a brother who died and left two sons, he had been widowed. Isabella and her husband took them in and brought them up. She is the granddaughter of his brother so then I could understand her grief. Ever since that day, when I'm in the Gardner museum I think of her and her gracious husband. We stayed in touch for years , they were older than me so both are gone now but this date will always be important to me. They were the most amazing hosts ever!!...See MoreAva Mapp
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