Hi Rose ...

... Truly - Taken to Talkin' to the Toaster yet?

o j

Just remember, there is a difference between being lonely and being alone.

When my son is gone (for instance he's about to go skiing with his friends in another couple of weeks), and I have the house to myself, it's pretty nice when I want to sleep in, but as the weekened progresses, I come to realize I haven't spoken a word in 36 hours! I find myself going out. To the grocery store. For nothing. I don't think I am lonely, but I do have a sense of being alone. I don't think they are the same thing. It's not a bad thing. Turning the tv cannot alleviate the feeling. It's the smiles that make it nice!

:)

Rose -- Ah, but WE are always only a few keys away! (I do get your disappointment about the call being merely intrusive.)

Buy a jigsaw puzzle to put together. It will take your mind off everything as you concentrate on the puzzle pieces.

Listen to some podcasts at least you can have someone talking to you!
I hate those calls and usually just slam down the phone.

When I am bored or lonely I like to get on youtube and start watching funny videos, one just leads right to another and I can spend a lot of time doing that. Laughter is the best medicine!

or watch hallmark ch, the movies are ok but they always have a happy ending..and I've rediscovered "create" ch an off shoot of pbs...travel, cooking, and art...and no ads!

Oh well, you've always got US!! :-)

P.S. Remember, the phone lines go both ways and you can call someone (except not that Microsoft scammer!!).

My neighbor warned me about that call so I was prepared. After letting him tell MS wanted him to help me with the problem I was having with my computer, I said, "I don't have a computer". He hesitated and said, "why?".

I got a second call told her the same thing and silence was priceless.

Since I lost DH and moved into assit living, I thought I would be busy, BUT, now I really enjoy my apt. I eat most of my meals in the dining room, but I have so much to do when I get back--craft projects not finished, ancestry stuff to sort out, enter, and cleaning out notebooks, address books, boxes of pictures etc. I bring a few boxes at a time from my house./basement and find I really don't need all the stuff. Some go to the kids, and some are just tossed. After all, how many old Christmas cards, birthday cards can a person keep. I do enjoy reading the Christmas letters over the years from some--others got tossed.
My kids live in the house which was a duplex and now a single BIG house after a doorway was cut into the wall. Even some of the furniture have found new homes.

I understand what you mean. I too sometimes feel so lonely, alone or whatever you want to call it. It is not a good feeling and if you aren't careful it can lead to other feelings like depression, low self esteem etc. Yes, there is a difference between lonely and alone but when you are lonely being alone can be very difficult. Sorry I don't have a solution but I do understand. Satine

My solution when I had felt that way some time ago was the second ex. A terrible mistake. He taught me that there are far worse things than being lonely.
Pets especially dogs are wonderful at chasing away the lonely blues.
As are internet groups.
One thing that will lift your spirits is exercise such as walking or bicycling, and frequently when one does one or the other one runs into new people or neighborhood acquaintances.

I am often alone. No, I am always alone, when at home. Good reason to keep that job I have. ;)

Sometimes, I just have the need to get out and under people.

It's my reason to go to all the meetings, aka, bicycling, knitting, home owners association etc.

It keeps me from getting lonely. :)

Moni

Moni, please tell us you meant around people or near them, and that you are not out throwing yourself under strangers ;)

I'm told that indefinitely lonely isn't something I understand. DH doesn't travel like he used to but I always did enjoy my house to myself, and I'm not one to otherwise make phone calls daily, go to lunch, I'm not really a joiner.
My former neighbor who is same age within three days of my mother has what I find such a great attitude, she lost her husband at age 57, 30 years ago. She tried one date, one time, decided not to do that again ;)

She tells me she is sometimes lonely and just gives in to it, lets herself feel bad for a while. A short while. Then, she mentally lists all the ways she is fortunate and makes herself be thankful for what she does have. Puts on a jacket and goes for a walk, weeds her garden, or goes to the library to see what she can find tempting to read.

Rose, do these short winter days and many hours of dark bother you? They do me. I hope if you want to connect with someone you will come here, come to your computer and say so. ((((hugs from the Washington coast to you, hope you have a better day tomorrow))))

Rose, I got the feeling your post was mostly "tongue in cheek".

I like that you toyed with the scammers. That can be entertainment in itself. LOL And Lord knows there are enough scammer calls one can get in a day.

Good for you.

There are a LOT of free pets that need adopting....just saying.....it would benefit both of you....

I always say, there's lonely, then there's lonely. Being married and being lonely is really the pits, being single and being lonely I just go shopping. LOL

Thanks everyone for the concern and suggestions. That is what I love about this place.
I am home alone a lot but it isn't too bad. Murraysmom was right that the comment was "tongue in cheek".
I appreciate the suggestions of a dog but I am not comfortable with dogs. I do have a guinea pig though.

My phone goes for days without ringing and I jump when it does ring haha. I am alone but have never felt lonely. I talk to the animals and the dishes and the floors I have to wash. They don't talk back thankfully hahaha Darn dishes never want to wash themselves no matter how many times I tell them to. :)

Anne

Beautiful dog, caroline!

How about a cat? They will keep you company too.