I call my in-laws by their first names. they asked me if that would be OK when we got married, and I was very relieved. I would not even consider calling them mom or dad, because for me, it would feel like a betrayal to my parents in my heart. think if you were in a situation in which you were divorced and your husband remarried someone that you either couldn't stand or were jealous of. and your children started calling her mom. I would think that would be painful. so in that same thought process, I wonder how our parents feel to hear their adult children calling someone else mom or dad. Actually, I would like to hear from those whose adult children are married. Would it bother you to hear your adult son/daughter call someone else mom or dad?

Ugh! I just don't understand parents who don't think about their children's welfare. Ima, from what I understand, BM lives 3 hours away from you in one direction, and BM's mother and other daughter live 1 hour away in the opposite direction? I would have offered to bring sister as far as our house, with grandma picking her up for the rest of the ride home. No way would I have made a 2-hour round trip. It's thoughtless that BM would want you to have to do this for her other child, and unforgivable that she made her 9 year old daughter call to ask. This so reminds me of my stepsons' BM. A couple years ago when SS18 was 16 and acting out, he stayed out 2 nights in a row, he disliked me and my rules and couldn't live in our house because of them, and told dad, "It's me or her," and wanted to go live with his BM. BM wanted to "save" son from this horrible, wicked Stepmom. DH asked her, since she lived outside of school district, if she would be able to get son to school. She said, "Of course I'll be able to drive my son to school." This was Saturday. On Sunday, son calls our house to ask if he can sleep over since BM cannot drive him to school on Monday. DH says, "Of course. How are you going to get here?" We hear BM in the background suggesting that dad pick son up. I felt terrible for my SS, since he had just said some mean, hurtful things about me, to have to call and ask if he could come back to our house for a night. But I couldn't understand how his mother would put him in that position. Now that BioMom has moved back east, SS18 goes out to visit her twice a year. We live about 40 minutes from Chicago O'Hare, so DH has always just taken son to the airport and picked him up. The last time, she booked his flight out of Midway, to save on airfare, and still expected DH to do the driving, despite the fact that it is a 3 hour round trip each way. DH called BM and explained he didn't have time to do this driving, and suggested she book a limo for son. She asked if he could do it, pay for it, and she would pay him back. He told her she could do it, and give them her credit card number. I could not imagine putting my kids in a situation where I wouldn't make sure that all the travel arrangements were done, and I would never leave it to someone else to take care of these things for my kids if I could do it myself.

Dovetail drawers are a common standard component in cabinet construction. The cab sub orders them from a supplier. It's no problem. Most mid grade and up cabinet drawers come with dovetail box construction. Another common drawer component is Blumotion slides possibly with soft close. Talking to the sub before he gives a quote about these is a normal practice. A specific type of lazy susan is the same. This is locking down components that affect the construction. Once the sub knows these parts are part of the project he can determine his costs and give the GC a price for the number of cabinets this particular job requires him to supply. The same applies to different door styles and wood varieties, paint finishes or other finishing affects. I'm sure you picked those too. There is no standard price because every kitchen has a different number of cabinets of different types. One kitchen can have $3k in cabs and the next $10k. That's why the cab sub is there before the contract price is presented. You told him what you wanted. He told the GC what his part of the job would cost. The GC figured his total cost and profit and gave you a price. You accepted his offer. That's all you owe. The sub is trying to overcharge the GC. He needs to go back to the sub for a refund. Which is probably something he has a lot of power to do because the sub has worked with him and wants to continue working with him on future jobs. Stand firm. Don't accept his verbiage about not making any money. He's making a healthy amount for his work. Next time you work with him require a complete list of specs as part of his contract offer. Write in any changes in pen before you sign. They supersede printed provisions and are controlling when the contract is signed.

divide early next spring ... every time they grow about 6 inches .. cut them back 3 of those 6 inches .... in MI that means i did it about 3 times ... and i stopped doing that in mid august or so ... since you will have lots of them ... experiment on various clumps ken