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After 20 years, another grandchild!!!

13 years ago

I was 47 when my granddaughter, Elizabeth, was born. Liz turns 20 next month, and I'm happy to report that my son and his wife are expecting a baby later in the year, in July!! They're the ones who eloped (remember?) in August. They wasted no time starting their family. (Guess you can relate to my surprise and excitement, Sandy in Iowa!) :-)

I'm a grateful Grammy!!

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Marilyn Sue McClintock
13 years ago
Congratulations! I was 44 years old when my first Granddaughter was born, now I will be 76 years old when my second Granddaughter will be born! Yea for both of us!

Sue
glenda_al
13 years ago
Think that is super!
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Pieonear
13 years ago
What a nice surprise. I know you are so excited!
enjoyingspring
13 years ago
That is so wonderful, congratulations.
alisande
Original Author
13 years ago
Thanks, everyone!

Sue, did you have grandsons in between, maybe? Congratulations to you!!
Marilyn Sue McClintock
13 years ago
No Alisande, no other grandchildren, just the one born in 1979, Mandy and now Amber is expecting her first at the end of March.

Sue
kacram
13 years ago
Congratulations! woohoo!
eandhl
13 years ago
How exciting, I am so happy for you, your son, DIL and baby to come.
hallngarden
13 years ago
Congratulations to you. So happy to hear the good news. We had been married fifty years and in our seventies when we had our first grand. She is now two and her brother is one. Thought our kids were wonderful, but could not imagine the happiness these little ones bring to us. My whole world just calms when I see those little faces. You just cannot have a bad day and look into those eyes.
Georgysmom
13 years ago
Well then, maybe there's hope for me. Congrats. to all!
susie53_gw
13 years ago
Oh, how exciting.. I am so thrilled for you. I was 54 when our first grandchild was born. All 3 of our kids were over 30 when they got married. We now have 8.. Fun times ahead for you.
nodakgal
13 years ago
Fantastic news!!!
Congratulations!
lunchlady1948
13 years ago
Congrats forsure!!

My DD#1 has a 20 year old girl, a 17 year old boy and our beautiful oopps baby girl is 2!! She lights my life!!
soxxxx
13 years ago
If all us mothers and grandmothers were in the same room we
could be making all those happy little clucking(or maybe it is chattering) noises that "knowing" women make when a pregnancy or actual birth is annouced. Does anyone understand what I am trying to say?

And I would love to have someone new to rock.
lydia1959
13 years ago
Congratulations!!!! How exciting! A new photo op! lol We expect to see lots of baby photos! Liz is probably excited to be getting a little cousin too?
happytime_ca
13 years ago
Congratulations!
alisande
Original Author
13 years ago
Thank you, all! I'm glad to see no one's holding it against me that I encouraged Casey to do the Christmas trivia questions for a whole week. LOL

Yes, Liz is very excited--and her mom actually jumped up and down when she heard the news. The other side of the baby's family has some special excitement going on, too: an aunt- and uncle-to-be, ages 8 and 6!
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Susan, that is wonderful news. I'll bet Joey and Leanne are absolutely ecstatic. And you're probably walking around with a big grin on your face and thinking about hooking a rug for the new baby's room or maybe a photo collage too.

I am so happy for you! Just think of all the new baby photos you'll be able to share with us.
joann23456
13 years ago
Congratulations! That's wonderful news.
minrose
13 years ago
How fun for you, congrats. We only have one grandson, which is the joy of our lives. I so love being a grandma. Not sure if I will ever have anymore grandkids so sure am cherishing the one I do have.
gemini40
13 years ago
What fantastic news...Congratulations !!
janniel
13 years ago
Wonderful! What a special blessing.
susanjf_gw
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hgl_gaylemarie
13 years ago
What a wonderful surprise. Congrats!
petaloid
13 years ago
I'm happy for you and your family!
Lily316
13 years ago
Wonderful news. I won't be having anymore but the two I have. ..12 and 20.
sleeperblues
13 years ago
That's great, enjoy. You're still a young Gramma!
patti43
13 years ago
Won't next Christmas be fun with a baby around? Enjoy!!
ruthieg__tx
13 years ago
Congrats......A new Grandbaby.......nothing better.......
chisue
13 years ago
Why am I not surprised? LOL That's lovely news.

I wish our children would 'get on with it' a little faster these days. Our DS dated our now-DIL for three years before they married. Then they waited another four years before DGS was born. Now he will be six a month after Baby #2 arrives in February.

Grandma is getting too old to be a lot of fun! (Seventy looms.) I thought *I* was rather old to be a mother when I was 30. When I was born my mother was put in the Gyn. wing instead of the Ob. ward, along with another 'older mother'. She was 36.
alisande
Original Author
13 years ago
Oh, wow, Chisue--the weird things they did to women back then. Your mother would fit right in with today's moms.

I was an "old" 30 when my first was born, too. We were married eight years, but four of those years were spent undergoing infertility testing while we tried to conceive. I feel lucky to have had three children.

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