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Mom Passed Away

14 years ago

This sandra's daughter again mom was taken off life support this morning and shortly there after passed away

thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

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LorifromUtah
14 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss.
My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. May God speed your Mom and bless your family.

Lori
jenni_ca
14 years ago
I am so sorry. Prayers and hugs to your family.
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glenda_al
14 years ago
My condolences!
donna_loomis
14 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
phyllis__mn
14 years ago
Condolances to you all.
socks
14 years ago
Heartfeld condolences. My mom is gone as well. Keep the good memories close at heart.
minnie_tx
14 years ago
So sorry to hear this Thank you for telling us
Blessings to family
alisande
14 years ago
Oh, dear. I'm so sorry. I appreciate your telling us. Such a difficult time.....
sandiefl
14 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss.My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
liz
14 years ago
my sincere sympathies for you and your family...Thanks for letting us know...
mimi_boo
14 years ago
You and your family have my deepest sympathies.
nodakgal
14 years ago
I'm so sorry. Losing your Mom is awful. We will miss her here.
lindyluwho
14 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss.

Linda
lynn_d
14 years ago
I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing my mom has been absolutely the worst feeling in the world. Bless your sweet heart.
Marilyn Sue McClintock
14 years ago
I am so sorry to hear you have lost your Mother. Thank you for letting us know.

Sue
petaloid
14 years ago
I can't imagine what you are going through now, and really appreciate your message to us about what has happened.
Mickey15
14 years ago
I am very sorry for your loss of your mom.
Big hugs,
Tammy
mamatoad
14 years ago
I am so very sorry for your loss! May you find comfort in memories of pleasant times spent together.
ronf_gw
14 years ago
My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Ron
dotmom
14 years ago
How sad, I'm sorry. I pray your memories of happy times with her, give you comfort. Dottie
country_bumpkin_al
14 years ago
I am so sorry! You and your family have my Prayers and Deepest Sympathy!
williamsburgjane
14 years ago
I am so sorry. Sending special thoughts for you and family. Jane
gadgets
14 years ago
I offer my condolences to you and the rest of your family. May His peace surround and keep you.

Shirley
secsteve
14 years ago
I'm so sorry to learn of your loss. You have my sympathy and prayers.
nancylouise5me
14 years ago
Very sorry to hear of your mom's passing. Take care of yourself and thank you for letting us know. NancyLouise
roseluver
14 years ago
Mom's are so special. Love and prayers, Charlene
twinklenose
14 years ago
So deeply sorry, Sandra, from the bottom of my heart.
kacram
14 years ago
I'm so very sorry for you loss. thank you for taking the time to come and tell us.
Please take care of your self and come back to talk if you feel like it!

(((((Sandra's daughter)))

Here is a link that might be useful: sandra's daughter's first post
noodles1959
14 years ago
My condolences to you and your family. My father passed away December 19 under the same circumstances, so I understand your pain. This will always be a sad time of year for us. Blessings to you.
Ann
kacram
14 years ago
I'm sorry (((((Noodles)))))
czech_chick
14 years ago
I'm so sorry.

Carol (NY)
FlamingO in AR
14 years ago
I am so very sorry for your loss. Sandra was a very nice lady and she'll be missed.
evatx
14 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear this! My sincerest sympathies to you and the rest of your family.
brody_miasmom
14 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear this.
katclaws_mo
14 years ago
My deepest sympathies to you & all of your family.
It will be two years ago today that my Mom passed & it will always be bittersweet. It's so hard to lose your Mom.
I will be keeping all of you in Special Thoughts & Prayers & I hope your memories of her will bring you strength & comfort in the difficult days ahead. ((Sandra's Daughter & Family))
cheryl_ok
14 years ago
I'm so very sorry
susan_on
14 years ago
I'm very sorry.
nanatricia
14 years ago
I also am very sorry .My prayers are with you
Linda Wayman
14 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathy and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time.
kathi_mdgd
14 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss.Condolences to all who knew and loved her.
Kathi
sandy_in_ia
14 years ago
You and your family have my deepest sympathies.
joann23456
14 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.
tami_ohio
14 years ago
I'm so sorry.

Tami
jel48
14 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear that.
des_arc_ya_ya
14 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear that. Thank you for letting us know. May your memories comfort you in the days to come.

RIP Sandra
lindaohnowga
14 years ago
Adding my sincere sympathy and a prayer for comfort for you and your family.
Jamie_LA
14 years ago
I'm so sorry!
vicki_lv
14 years ago

Please know my thoughts are with you and your family.
Coosie
14 years ago
I am so very sorry. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.
kittiemom
14 years ago
My condolences.

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