Someone here made an ADORABLE christmas ornament with a feathers and a poem (Sorry all I remember is that it was for the husband of a member in ND...I think it was MarieND's son-in-law that had passed). I'm sure someone will read this and know what I'm talking about.

I read somewhere that naming a star is a huge ripoff. Though I think it's a really nice sentiment.

Vickey-MN

the star is wonderful...or how about a tree locally, or a donation to the arbor society in her name?

Naming a star is a rip-off. Who owns the universe? Not some guy who advertizes. There are some very nice poems honoring the dead. I would hand-copy a poem and give it to the parents.

The children's hospital here in my city has a little garden/playground on site. In the garden there are several trees planted in memory of children who have passed away. You make a donation to the hospital and they put a little plaque next to a tree. You might want to check with your children's hospital to see if they have a similar program.

If she decides to name the star, she should not pay for it. The site in the link below is free, there may be others that offer a free star too.

Here is a link that might be useful: Name a Star

If they are religious, I'd see about having a candle lit or a service in the baby's memory.

Around here, it's common to plant a little garden (often with an angel statue in it) in the town park to honor a child who's passed away. Perhaps that would be something you could organize for them?

The star thing is definately a rip off..... those guys are making a fortune on unsuspecting people. Making a contribution in the childs name to the local pediatric ward is a nice gesture. Or, donating a big basket of toys, etc. to the childrens ward at Christmas would be a nice thing. Anything to make a sick child smile is always rewarding.

Here is the Angel Feather ornament Country Bumpkin was so sweet to make for my DD when my DSIL Steve passed away. It is beautiful and she treasures it SO much!! Bump, I am not sure you know what making that meant to her. (or to me) Once again, thank you from the bottom of our hearts!!!

The other side with the verse on card

I think PattiCo did one later also for her DH's friends wife. They really are beautiful Joanna.

I am sorry I forgot to mention a couple other ideas.
A tree or rose bush planted in the baby's memory.This could be at their home or the cemetary.
You can purchase a bench at a park or cemetary in the baby's memory.

Thank you all for these great ideas! I will be sure to tell them all to my co-worker :)

Is there a SIDS foundation to which they could make a donation?

It was not my SIL (mariend), I think it was Connie (nodakgal). But the ornament is a beatiful idea along with maybe a donation to the Children's ward of the hospital, a plant, donation to Mayo Clinic for more research for SID's and just a thought--Dave on the Selling forum just lost his beatiful daughter and is quite active in one of the organizations.

It was on the buying and selling forum

I know of families that plant roses or other plants that share a name with the child. As an example, I have a rose in my garden called Ruth. I planted her in my Grandmothers memory.

Trish

I put flowers in my church in memory of my deceased daughter.

My daughter's friend Jamie died suddenly ten years ago of a heart condition while the two of them were walking around the community swimming pool. Jamie had turned 14 the day before.

I created a web page (see link) in Jamie's honor with a poem that seemed fitting. You might want to make a butterfly ornament with the poem inside (like Nodakgal's angel feather).

Jodi-

Here is a link that might be useful: The Butterfly

My cousin had a baby boy that died shortly after birth. She buried him on her parents farm, and they made an "angel garden" around the spot. Hostas and an Angel statue. It's a very pretty and peaceful place.

My first thought was a donation to an organization that tries to learn about and prevent SIDS. My other idea was a donation to help other, living children that need food, clothing, etc.

I am sorry about your friend's grandbaby. That has to be so hard to lose a child that way.