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Dear nephew is gone

18 years ago

I just got back from TN, my beautiful brave nephew lost his battle with pancreatic cancer Wed. morning. It was so painful for him until the last 45 minutes. I am so grateful that I was able to be with him in the last few weeks. We were the same age so we were more like brother and sister than nephew and aunt. Please keep his wife and daughters in your prayers.

Teri

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donna_oh
18 years ago
So sorry Teri.

May your DN rest in peace-

Hugs to all of you!

Donna (^_^)
ronm80
18 years ago
I am sorry. Will keep your DN's family in my prayers.
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scottymam
18 years ago
Teri,

so sorry for your families loss prayers for all of you.

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Granlan_TX
18 years ago
I'm so sorry your dear nephew suffered so much; I know he'll be missed.

Special thoughts to you and the family.
koda04
18 years ago
i am so very sorry for your loss
ruthieg__tx
18 years ago
Sending good thoughts to all of you.
williamsburgjane
18 years ago
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Sending special thoughts and warm hugs for you and your family.
danihoney
18 years ago
Oh I'm so sorry to here this. I lost a cousin to Pancreatic cancer.

The only positive is that you nephews pain is finally over.

((((HUGS))))
mjny
18 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers of comfort to you and your nephews family.
lydia1959
18 years ago
So sorry. Sending good thoughts for the family.

(((Teri)))
caroline94535
18 years ago
I'm saying prayers for your nephew, you, and the entire family.

(((((Teri)))))
donna_loomis
18 years ago
So sorry for your loss, and the loss to his wife and children.
clubm
18 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss...my thoughts are with you and his family at this time.
wildchild
18 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you and family.
grinch_gut
18 years ago
Sending good thoughts......Stacy
grammahony
18 years ago
Sending my sympathy and prayers for comfort to you and the family.
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debnfla8b
18 years ago
I'm so sorry for your families loss.

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lulie___wayne
18 years ago
I'm so sorry!
Lulie
FlamingO in AR
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I am sorry for your loss, Teri. How very sad.
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18 years ago
How very sad for the family.
declansmom
18 years ago
I am so very sorry for you and your family.
I will keep you all in my prayers.
Pieonear
18 years ago
I am so very sorry.
alisande
18 years ago
I'm sorry. I hope your family will find some comfort in knowing he's at peace.
kayjones
18 years ago
I feel your pain - and I am saddened. I lost my Dear Husband to pancreatic cancer last year!
liz
18 years ago
I am so sorry for you loss...
msmarion
18 years ago
I'm so sorry. I will say a prayer for your family.
minnie_tx
18 years ago
so sorry for the whole family
jannie
18 years ago
I'm so sorry. My prayers and sympathy to all of you.
glenda_al
18 years ago
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Vique_Pa
18 years ago
I am so sorry to hear that, he fought a brave fight. Now he is resting in the Lord's arms. Vique.
sjerin
18 years ago
My sympathies to you and all the family. I'm sure he's very happy now.
Jodi_SoCal
18 years ago
Teri, I wish I could take your pain away but hopefully you will find peace soon and let the great memories of your nephew live on through you.

Jodi-
Eliza_ann_ca
18 years ago
My heart goes out to you and your entire family at this very sad time.
summer_tx
18 years ago
I'm so sorry (((((Terilyn))))). No one should have to suffer like that. Breaks my heart. :( I know your family welcomes his peace.
User
18 years ago
I am glad you were there to say goodbye but sorry it had to be. My condolences to you and all of the family at this time. He is no longer suffering.
jahalaro
18 years ago
My sympathy to you and to your nephew's wife and family. May loving memories comfort you all. Beth
ritamay91710
18 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear that. My heart and prayers go out to your whole family.
nan_nc
18 years ago
My heartfelt sympathies to you, and to all affected by this great disordering of the norm. Many hugs, and soft shoulders to cry on as you need them are here for the asking, and even if you don't ask.

White light to your nephew to lead him home, and peace to all of you who loved him.

Nancy
vicki_lv_nv
18 years ago

I am so very sorry for your loss.
patti43
18 years ago
It must've been hard to be there and I'm praying for strength for all you DN's family. Hope you can find some peace, somehow.
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18 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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18 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending special thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

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gwanny2three
18 years ago
So sorry to hear this.....I know your pain all to well. Special prayers to you and your family.
gneegirl
18 years ago
Adding my prayers for peace that soon the sorrow will yield room to cherish the special times.

gneegirl
evatx
18 years ago
I'm so sorry!
donna37
18 years ago
Sorry for your loss, prayers and special thoughts for you and family.
tami_ohio
18 years ago
You have my sympathy and prayers.

Tami
grittymitts
18 years ago
Having lost a precious Nephew too, I know how deep the heartaches you and the family are suffering. May beautiful memories of him soon replace the pain of your loss.

Bless you,
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gardenspice
18 years ago
I'm so glad you could be there for him. You have my deepest sympathy.

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