Dear nsf798, You don't know me, soforgive me for putting in my two cents. I don't have the problem you are having, I've got two girls who are 9 and 7 and they are very good friends and though they have their struggles they play together very well. I will say that they have very different personalities and that though the elder gets/deserves many perks for her maturity the younger one is more forward and agressive and often gets what she wants by being so pushy. I really agreed with paigct's comment that enlisting your son to help your younger daughter is one way to handle this, but I also kind of agree with whoever posted that what appears to be a problem from your point of view might not be from the little sisters point of view. That being said, I want to recommend two fantastic books by Nancy Samalin (don't know her and am not connected to her). At least I think they are both by her but on reflection I think one isn't. The first one is How to talk so children will listen and how to listen so children will talk. I found taht really invalable (more so as my children got older) in helping me think through the dynamics of an interaction before I got started, and also in helping me think about modeling solutions rather than talking about problems. Another great book, and I'm sure this is by samalin, is "loving each one best" a book about siblings. And the last great book is called "raising the optimistic child" or "raising an optimistic child." This is a great book for working with children on problem solving rather than blaming. It makes a good read along with "how to talk..." I guess what I'm trying to say is that 1) your son sounds like he is having a burgeoning problem with kids his age; 2) he may or may not have a problem with his little sister but you certainly have one with the way he is treating her; 3) some of these problems could be addressed by working with him on common courtesy. I have had the intersting experience of driving someone else's kids to summer camp for a week. What amazed me is that things that seemed to come naturally to my daughters simply had never even occured to the two little girls I'm now driving. Sharing a snack? forget it. Both of them stuffed their mouths for the entire drive without ever offering my girls a taste--even as my daughters instantly and courteously offered their snacks for sharing. Saying hello and goodbye to us in the morning and afternoon? forget it, it simply never occured to them. Thanking me for driving? apparently that was also inconceivable. The difference in age between me and these girls is considerable (some 40 years) but I'm as courteous to them as I would be to another adult. Which is by way of saying that I think the excuse that your son is 4 years older than his sister so he naturally gets to boss her around is, well, not right. You want him to have good manners whatever the age or station of the person he's with. Perhaps helping him see that close relations (whether family or friend) don't excuse bad behavior is the way to go. just my two cents abfab

I was a fan of Luke and Margie but after last night's show I want them gone. Mommy dearest isn't doing that young man any favors by enabling him. I didn't care for his little hissy fits before but just thought it was editing. Now I think they've been editing to make him look good. They came on the show, they claim, to show that deaf people are just like everyone else and continue over and over again to play the "deaf" card and to top it off bring "race" into it at the mat. I do think the sisters were having a hard time not laughing at him but it was because of his childish behavior not because he was deaf! At first I thought it was just editing but no matter how you look at what happened Lukie can do anything because just in case nobody noticed "he's deaf" after all. I'm surprised the sister he hit didn't just cold cock him. She showed a lot of restraint. Mommy appears to think it's OK for Lukie to hit women. Bet 'lil Lukie kicked her as a child and she let it go because he's frustrated because "he's deaf" after all. Never taught the kid boundaries. The cheerleaders are looking better and better. They're showing more of a sense of humor. I really like watching the Chinese brother and sister developing a better working relationship. They'd get the trophy for most improved were I giving them out. I would love to see them win. In spite of the brothers ineptness and stupid mistakes I don't think any other team enjoyed the adventure more. Mommy needs to let Lukie out of the bubble and he needs to grow up. he's got a tough life ahead of him if something doesn't change and his deafness will be the least of his problems.

Marilyn, sorry CBS in not showing up for you tonight. BB is on Wednesdays, Thursday and Sunday. It is a interesing cast this season, I thought for sure Janelle wouldn't be on again as she has baby daughter, but I was wrong. She said she had a full time Nany and her mother and mother-in-law were watching Violet. I wasn't happy to see Boogie again.

I think Cody and Jessica have managed to alienate themselves from everyone. Unfortunately the cowboy drank The Cody kool-aid! I was so glad to see Mark come around to his senses and drop Cody. He is a very tender hearted guy. He was crying with Christmas after she broke her foot. I don't really trust Elana is that her name? That has the red lipstick and big boobs. She has been sleeping in Mark's bed and smooching with him but I think she is going to hurt him. She was all cuddled up and petting Paul a few nights ago on BBAD. She is sketchy.