For those of you who have just lost a pet

16 years ago

it will make things easier if you just write something down, to this pet and tell him/her how you feel. We lost our McDuff in November. We still have his ashes. We have Daisy and Duffy. But we still miss this dog soooo much. And it's okay to grieve. They are members of our family.

I know I posted this poem before, but I just wanted to post it again just in case there is someone grieving out there and others are telling them "to get over it" or something like that.

Our Sweet, Sweet McDuff

I moved to Long IslandÂs North Fork,

A place very new to me

I felt alone here, and different from the way I used to be.

Then I got you, Sweet McDuff, at 6 weeks of age,

I proudly strutted you through Greenport,

And oh, my love, you were all the rage.

Your huge Saint Bernard paws and your very, very beautiful face,

Introduced me to people in this unknown place.

I adored you from 6 weeks to 7 years old,

And, of all the hearts I know, yours was a true, a very true gold.

People giggled and were awed at your big, gorgeous, 180lb self,

You were magnificent, my boy, in all your glorious stealth.

I met people I never knew,

Now they are a part of my life, all because of you.

Although you were never asked to guard our front door,

You did, my gentle giant, and made our B&B guests feel safe and secure.

What a lucky girl your sister, Daisy was,

To have one so noble for her to love.

The respect and adoration you had for each other,

was just so awesome to watch and made us all wonder

How you loved each other and us so much,

Were you gift a gift from God, precious McDuff?

You amazed everyone until cancer took you,

We tried and tried, sweet boy, but there was nothing we could do.

You were there by my side in good times and bad,

we laughed and cried together,

How I miss the friendship we had.

So proud, so proud, so proud and blessed we were to have you, my big, beautiful boy,

My heart aches now at the loss of my pride and joy.

You are in heaven now,

And to you, Our Sweet, Sweet McDuff, we all take a bow.

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liz
16 years ago
(((Trisha)))...I firmly believe you'll be with your McDuff again one day...If my doggies aren't waiting for me when its my time to go to heaven...then i want to go wherever they are...
trisha57_ny
Original Author
16 years ago
Hey Liz, yeah, I have this very busy life. very busy. It's been 9 months since we had to put Duff to sleep. And we still miss him. I think he made our B&B what it is today.
I firmly believe that things happen for a reason. He was here for a reason. He was here when we started the B&B. And became the mascot.
We still have guests calling cause they want to meet McDuff. We totally miss this guy.
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FlamingO in AR
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What a wonderful tribute to McDuff and the love you shared, Trisha.

I miss my sweet Paisley so much, but I'm so glad that she isn't struggling to breathe anymore. I have her ashes next to my side of the bed, where she liked to lie at night. She was my best girl, that's for dang sure.
trisha57_ny
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Hi flamingo, you should write something to Paisley. It will make you feel so much better.
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Trish, we have lost 6 cats in 10 years and each and every one is heart wrenching. Your poem speaks of so much love.

One of the very first websites I discovered back in 1997 when I first got on the net was petloss.com and the lovely international candle ceremony. They have some beautiful poetry and some very moving articles about pet grief there. If you have a mind to check it out, scroll down the entire home page:

Here is a link that might be useful: petloss.com
cynic
16 years ago
You lost McDuff about the same time my little cat Sunny went. (He died on Thanksgiving morning.) As things went, I guess I was "lucky" in that I was able to spend several hours with him on my lap, talk to him, pet him and hopefully make his death more comfortable for him. I guess it made me feel a lot better too. I tend to get so very attached to animals it's tough to lose them. I haven't had too many different animals. It goes a long time between them. I keep thinking it's better to not have them and go through the pain, but then when you balance out the joy of having them, I guess it's still worthwhile.

Duffy must be getting HUGE by now! I remember the picture of him you posted. I suspect you can't duplicate that picture today! :)
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16 years ago
What a lovely tribute to a beloved pet. I have had 16 cats and four dogs and have gone thru this 13 times. I just wrote down the names of all my pets starting with Simon, the Siamese who lived to 20. It's heartbreaking every time, some even more than others, and I always say that I won't go thru this any more but always do. When I had small kids I had one cat and one dog . When kids left home, I started rescuing. I'm done now. And I agree w/ Liz..if my pets aren't in heaven then I want to go where they are.
lindaohnowga
16 years ago
Because "all" animals, human, furred or feathered are God's creations and He loves them all, I firmly believe they will be in heaven too....the lion and lamb will lay down with the child. No more predator/prey. People with near death experiences have reported "seeing" their beloved pets.

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