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Comments (15)Dawn, I ain't asking Momma nothing because she never shuts up! More on my young-un's Properly cooked, I like them just fine. I can remember Granpappy taking me out into his garden when I was about their age. He would spot a bird and tell me "That's a yellow bellied sap-sucking scissor swallowing North American Kestrel" and I would go "Yep - that's a bird alright!" There is this one little girl that is just too cute for words. She is the one that heels well. She has these humongously thick glasses and she constantly walks into things. Mostly because she gets this - uhmmm - stuff on the lenses. So you have to follow her around with a bottle of windex and a squeegee. Where did March go? Heck, I am still trying to figure out where 2007 went. I know I participated in that year due to the fact that I am still breathing. My lettuce? It is strange. The first sowing sprouted fine so I went ahead with the second. It sprouted fine, so I went ahead with the third sowing. Well It sprouted just fine. Now it is all just sitting there. All the same size. All not growing. I know what is going to happen. Instead of the normal steady crops of lettuce taking us right on into the hot weather, I am going to get one huge crop all at once. Generally in this garden, I can sow a crop of lettuce as soon as the first one sprouts and it all works out good. And generally, I can get six or seven sowings. Not this year though. I suppose I could can it up like the other greens - but with the spring work season coming on strong, I just ain't ready to start canning yet. It will be alright, I reckon. Miss Susie Lynn: I ain't coming down to move that heavy stuff for you - alright? And I sure ain't looking to get hitched up! Unless you make really good cornbread and greens. And maybe some buttermilk too. No butterflies up this way yet. But it's coming! True story on the Hummers: Down in Honduras, there was this Gal I was sort of tracking down. I kind of wanted to marry her. One day I came home from whatever it was I was doing at that time and found her there cooking me a surprise dinner. It was pretty good, so I asked what it was. She told me it was Sopa de Colibri. I said "alright then, show me what a Colibri is." So, all proud like, she takes me out to my back yard and shows me. She had taken a hammock and made sort of a butterfly net which she had used to capture a whole bunch of my hummers that came to feed on the feeders and flowers I had put there for them. So, I am standing there in shock trying to figure out just how in the world one responds to something like this. I mean, to me, that is like telling you that the fried chicken you just ate was really a Bald Eagle. Needless to say, I didn't marry that Gal. It did change the whole dating thing though. Now, I make sure to ask things like this - "you're not going to make me eat any hummingbirds are you?" G.M. My baby sister is named Dawn. Not this Dawn though....See MoreThinking about anxiety and panic attacks
Comments (42)My thoughts align with SG for the most part, however, I have witnessed post-partum hallucinogenic psychosis and have known suiciders that no amount of self-will training or loving support from others would have prevented. There is a very real need for medicines which manipulate brain chemistry, and fortunately we have progressed in our ability to protect the most fragile in times of severe crisis. I hope that we can all be sensitive and respectful of people who have to resort to urgent pharmological interventions as the most effective and life-enhancing treatment for some types of depression, psychosis and other forms of severe manifestations of emotional distress. By and large, we've come to recognize and accept that brain chemistry and circuitry problems are indeed real physical diseases and that, just as with other diseases, there are various approaches to treating these types of illnesses. But SG's suggestion that it is an industry that is undermining our health is well-founded. Yes, there are appropriate usages for these drugs, but caveat emptor: there are several studies that suggest there is a price yet to be determined in terms of long-term cognitive ability with protracted use of anti-depressants. Consequently, they are currently in disfavor in much of Europe after having been tried, and other more natural treatments are now more routinely explored initially. I don't think these meds are the panacea to be used to mask garden variety discomfort, and I believe that is the segment that is best addressed by SG's approach. I concur with SG and others who suggest that far too many have been persuaded the appropriateness of dealing pharmocologically with the discomfort that is a consequence of simply being human. Grief, anger and other unpleasant emotions serve a real purpose, are often very appropriate responses, and are an intrinsic part of our journey. Often anxiety and difficult emotions are a sign that we really have difficult inner homework to do, and I'd opt for working through the issues whenever possible rather than placating through meds. (I hope readers understand my emphasis is on whenever possible and repeat I'm well aware that it is not always possible or advisable.) My SS, a neurologist, and some physician friends do not agree, and often routinely recommend for themselves and their patients meds to deal with stress and unhappiness rather than undertaking the arduous task of changing the structure of one's life and/or learning healthier responses to challenges. Ergo, it seems we will continue to be less able as a society to go down the path SG suggests. I believe many would be better served by accessing inner resources than by pills, but also know that a requisite foundation of skills, or access to a means to acquire this knowledge, is not within reach for some. Philosophically I can agree with SG that the answers lie within, and wholeheartedly endorse our responsibility to respond with love at all times, but IRL I know some are equipped with damaged circuits through no fault of their own upon arrival as Kkay suggests and others whose circuitry becomes damaged from illness, toxins or accidents, some have been badly wounded experientially, and some just may prefer an easier way out. I'm not sure that SG said there is no physical basis for depression. "Depression/anxiety is actually being stuck, neural-activity wise, in the primal mind of the lower brain." Rather, I understood her comment to signal a real understanding of physiological responses but that we can trigger better responses by substituting different thought patterns, widely endorsed by cognitive therapists and other gurus. SG is quite capable of defending herself, but I know many intelligent, non-cult, independent thinkers, medical professionals and main-stream religious and total non-religious types who concur with this approach. There is no one path to wholeness, and while it is always preferable to rely on inner resources and loving support, it is not always possible. Wholesale dismissal of alternate, non-pharm approaches is not helpful nor is insistence on innate ability to cope with severe illness without intervention. Intelligent discussions of this type can be a wonderful resource for countless anonymous readers in cyberworld who are facing difficulties, seeking solutions and who may need encouragement to face another day....See MoreHi KT and I am going in for surgery next wed...long
Comments (41)I had mine like Besty and a few others. It was done long ago in 1975 and they made me stay in the hospital for 5 days. Could not understand that, I was ready to go home the next day. I had no pain at all so never took even one pain pill. I have always said the worst part of it was staying in the hospital 5 days and standing up for the first time is kind of strange. It feels like they stretched you open enough to drive a truck through! LOL You'll do fine Stacy and will not regret for one minute you had it done....See MoreI Can Feel The Anxiety Building Already
Comments (4)Oh thank you, JMT! I thought about your advice all weekend while X and GF made jerks out of themselves, yet again. So much so that DS is a basket-case about having to go there again this weekend. He had forgotten this coming weekend was actually the 1st weekend of October, therefore, he has to go two weekends in a row. Also, it's a 3-day weekend, and he is afraid it will turn out like the last 3-day weekend. This past weekend was better, but DS was still super-happy to be home. He even told me at his sports event on Sunday that he couldn't wait to see me that night. You both are probably right...it's probably nothing I did, but I am a convenient target. In X's mind (and GF's, too) I ruined his life when I left him and stole his son. He is, and has always been, in complete denial that anything he did to me was his fault. Like a textbook abuser, he would say "I'm sorry, but you shouldn't have pushed me." True, I shouldn't have pushed him, but the line was/is always moving and I can't have my son living like that! Here's the latest...DS told me Sunday afternoon at his sports event that he got bit by a dog on Saturday, but that it wasn't bad and he had it wrapped up so it wouldn't get dirty. When he got home on Sunday night I helped him re-dress it and...it is worse than I expected. Probably needed stitches or glue on the inside. Too late by the time I found out about it. What makes it worse is that it's on his ankle on the side of the achiles tendon, which, because of the constant movement of this area, makes it keep opening up. Monday, it was swollen, red and throbbing so much so that I had to talk to his coach to see if he could sit out of conditioning. DS was nearly in tears! It is much, much, much better now, but it will probably be a scar, which is fine. Here are the things that really bother me: 1) No one told me about it until a day after it happened. 3) Because no one told me, I was never even given the option of paying for the doctor's visit if I thought it was warranted. 2) I don't even know if the people who own the dog offered to pay for it, because, if so, they SHOULD be paying for whatever damage was caused by THEIR dog. I doubt it though because they're X's "friends" aka partners in bashing me (according to DS). 3) Because DS didn't go to the doctor he didn't get a tetanus shot. Not that he has tetanus, but it's always a possibility with those things. 4) It could've gotten infected, and because it probably needed to be glued insie the wound, the possibility is still there. 5) I have no idea if that dog was vaccinated or not. OH, and then, DS told me that GF told him that if he wanted clean clothes that he had to wash them because SHE wanted to make sure he was ready for college. UMMM, WTF?? I really don't mind if DS does his laundry, as he does it at home, but what business is it of hers if he knows how to do laundry in college? I seriously doubt that if he needs laundry done when he's in college that he'll bring it to HER. Also, they only get him 4 days per month, and they're gonna be like that? HE IS 1 PERSON!!! It's not like 3 kids are there or that they have other people in their home to take care of!!! He is 1 kid who wears 2 outfits!! Big whoopty freakin dooooooooo! Why pick at him? UGH! I feel like they are just picking at him for no reason!...See More- 11 years ago
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