JustnotMartha, The seller is enjenjen. I cannot remember the particulars of the hood, but it has 830(?) CFMs. I did see the *exact* same model on a different site when I was doing research, and for the life of me I cannot remember the name. It was oversold on that site, and I believe they come from either Taiwan or Japan. The instructions were atrocious, however. Hubby and I had lots of giggles over them. He would pull out this little booklet with the one page and say, "Well, let's just see what it says on my very thorough handy-dandy instruction sheet." He's an HVAC guy, so no worries. If I wasn't in the middle of painting (just waiting for hubby to finish something, so came here--natch) I would try to find the company that I *believe* manufactures our hood. I do remember the model number was the exact same, just the letters and numbers were reversed. And YES, the price was much better on eBay.

Update: 3 weeks on market on Saturday, 15 showings. Offer came in Sunday (low balled me and had a hubbard clause). I came back with a number and they agreed to it - so I'm pending. Closing date is end of May. Today I had a first showing to someone else who does not have a house to sell - don't know the outcome of that showing yet but if another offer comes in, we'll see what happens. Now - here is my problem. I put my house on the market right at the 'perfect' time here in CT (or so they say). But the spring market 'Boom' of houses, actually, ANY house for that matter has not come on the market in the past 3 weeks. We are limiting ourselves to staying in our town so that is part of our situation. Good thing my buyers want a far off closing date b/c I'm hoping more houses come on the market. If they don't then I'll be moving in temprorarily with my in-laws until we find something. AACCCKKK!!

You know what, yes, DH and I are much better off financially than BM. But, that is because I work my butt off to make sure that I am making enough money to cover everything. I make significantly more money than DH does and if he were by himself he would never be able to afford the things we are able to together. I will not apologize for working hard and making sacrifices to better myself. I will not apologize because I am able to afford to buy oldest son an Ipod for his birthday and BM is not. She is the only one making the choice to stay at her waitressing job. She is the only one choosing to work only three days a week barely working more than five hours each shift. Dh and I both work 40 hours a week and most times more and yet still manage to make time to work around the kids schedule and get everything done. I am the person who has decided that I want more success in my career and is going back to school. BM said she was going back to school but then never showed to her classes and failed her classes. Dh and I both are on the run from far before sunrise to far after sunset ... so no I will not apologize or feel guilty that I have a nice home or that I just went shopping to get some new work clothes... and it bugs me to no end to hear not only the people on this forum (certain people) throwing that in the air all of the time... but BM as well. I don't really care if she is broke or can't afford to do what she wants and I dont really care if her BF totalled her car and she can't afford another one so she has to drive her moms... that is not my problem ... We make sure the kids are taken care of and that is the end of our responsibilities. I will not feel guilty for making something out of my life and I will not feel guilty for encouraging DH to do the same. Before I came along he was so low on himself and his own abilities he never even thought to work in a managerial role in his profession... now, that is something he is actively working towards. Oh, and BTW just an example of the full effort or care BM puts in... the other night oldest son got in trouble at school.. school called dad ... in other words son in BIG trouble... well, BM picked kids up from school that day (DH had called bm to let her know what happened) oldest son lied to BM denying what happened ..(he had no idea BM and DH had talked) needless to say oldest in even more trouble... But at the crux of the problem is that this has been happening more and more with oldest. So, I decided to say something to both BM and DH ... I told them look the only reason why oldest thinks he can get away with lieing to the two of you and about the two of you is because you cant seem to have a conversation longer than 5 minutes without arguing... DH said I agree ... he hears everything that we are doing and saying and its not good for him... BM said and I qoute "well, he has been hearing that for years." As if that means things should continue exactly the way they are without care for how it affects your children ... great just one more example of why you are super mom ... not so much. I did say that that doesnt mean that it should continue and we all need to have better communication with each other or things will get out of control very quickly... ofcourse, it fell on deaf ears.

"At what point does reneging on your promise/vow/decision make you, if not evil, and least an undesirable person with whom to associate?" I did not say I wanted to make these people my best friends. I said I respected the decision they made in this hypothetical situation by putting their children first. There are many variables that have been entered into this discussion, but I was talking of one specific only - a mother who gives up her child at birth so that it may have a life better then they know they are capable of giving it. That choice I respect. I would like to say that marriage should be forever, but I have a more realistic view. I have seen the damage first hand that can happen to a child with parents who stay together, are abusive toward each other and make their kid's lives miserable - many of those scars do not fade even as an adult. Are they bad people because they realize that their "togetherness" is hurting their children and end it? I like to think no - they are trying to do the best they can in a situation with no good answers. Yes, marriage is work, but there are some problems no amount of work can fix, and some situations when all parties involved are not willing to work. Does this analysis apply to men/women who leave their families because they got an itch? No. I am talking very specifically, so please take my words in that context only.