In a perfect world, all grandchildren would be loveable, and all grandmas would be patient, loving saints. It is not a perfect world. Grandmothers are of an age where children were brought up to respect their elders, be polite, and speak when spoken to. Children who did not conform to these rules were spanked. Times have changed - Our grandchildren are being raised in a time when spanking your children can get you thrown in jail. Discipline is nearly non-existent for many. And Grandparents are only human. We might have problems of our own, including physical problems or depression. 2 of my own grandchildren are becoming thoroughly unlikeable. They have no respect for anything or anybody, are destructive and treat their cousins awful. I don't really blame them altogether, as I realize that my daughter is the root of the problem. This is not the way I raised her, but she sets an example for them of contempt for others, including me. If she speaks of people with contempt, who is to blame the children for acting that way? I go on with my life and refuse to let it get me down. What goes around, comes around. I can only hope that it will work out - Hating the child is not the answer. I let them know that I love them, but hate the way they behave. If things don't change, I anticipate nothing but trouble for the eldest, including jail if he doesn't change. Dianna

Thank you, thank you, thank you to Silversword and lamom. You get what I am saying. I was not trying to "goat" anyone into anything or stir up the pot. I really was posting my deep thoughts, kind of like a journal to myself while at the same time trying to explain the situation. The reason I wrote the stuff about the BM being proud of being 'white trash' was because I was trying to explain about what I am dealing with here. That is all. I am the furtherest thing from someone who is all high and mighty and I don't think I am better than anyone else. In fact I am more of the black sheep in my family partly because I am not so judgmental and I am the rebel. I have tattoos, moved out at 17 on my own, don't like people to tell me what to do, etc. And yes I freely admit I am a control freak. That is something I am working very hard on. After the first post I was just adding details and my mind and thinking were changing. I am glad that my tune has changed since last Sunday. I am feeling much more optimistic now. Honestly I didn't think I was even going to come back to this site and I told myself today ok just go see what was said but don't post anymore. I am glad I did come back because both silversword and lamom made feel better and realize that not everyone here is so judgemental. I can take criticism and I was really thankful for the first few posts that told me to grow up because that is exactly what I needed to hear. And I do not get off on or enjoy writing inflammatory posts. I am sorry I was just writing my story and the quotes that sylviatexas posted that I wrote on the first day I registerd were written because that is what was said. I was not making anything up, that is my story and I am sticking to it, lol. My DH did not graduate but I don't hold that against him. I still love him very much. He also had a drug addiction in his past but you know what he is stronger for it and has proven how he can overcome almost anything. People do change and I do not hold their past on them forever. When I say he went through a bad period that is what I was referring. There is, of course, way more to the story and lamom is right you can not describe it all in one post, or even probably in 100. But what matters most is that this site did help me. I got a change to write my thoughts down and try to figure out what in the world I was really feeling. The more I wrote about SS and what HE has to deal with the more I found that I do care about him. I really do. It is still going to take time to build a relationship but I think it is all going to be ok.

jmc101, rut ro. I'm guilty of using the word "love" as in I LOVE my new "the most beautiful lamp in the world" lamp...and a slew of other inanimate objects. My mother gets on to me all the time for that. I'm 56 again. Aren't a little old to be getting chastised by my momma? (g) Speaking of loving inanimate objects, I seriously feel like punching a person that calls inanimate objects "sexy" "My new Galaxy S7 is one sexy phone". I just don't get it! Burt Reynolds used to be sexy. Harry Connick Jr IS sexy, but phone, car or watch? Ending a sentence in a preposition. A pet peeve of mine as well but sometimes I do it because to say the sentence correctly sounds too "stuffy" (for lack of a better word). But ending a sentence with "at", NEVER! I had a high school HISTORY teacher that would answer any question that ended in "at" with "between the a and the t". Like, "where's a box of new chalk at?" I don't know if he's right but my one of my brothers researched the grammar rule of never ending a sentence with a preposition. I can't quote him exactly he said it was a Frenchman who decided that Americans shouldn't end sentences with a preposition and that it's not really a "rule" of English grammar. Does anyone have more information on this? I hope all my grammar, sentence structuring and punctuation is right. I'm really feeling self conscience now :o

Nothing will make it "right" . Big deal......a circular entry. The walls defined it! and EVEN if you do something to call attention to the floor? That is too large and not well done. It's an example of why we say: Design is editing.......: ) As in do you NEED it? Maybe not lol You need "grandeur" To pull off grandeur. That most resembles the shower floor in a lake house. I'd have my sledge out soon.. I can say it would drive me nuts.