wertach, I'm one of the resident 'nuts' here; I wouldn't remove the pecan - and not just because I'm a pecan/hickory enthusiast. A willow, poplar, or maple - I'd say yes unequivocally - but not a pecan or oak; their roots are just not as 'invasive'. If you google up 'planting on septic leach field' and 'controlling root invasion into septic field lines', etc., you'll find that the wholesale call for removal of any tree in the leach field vicinity is not supported by evidence. In support of harvestman's response, I have friends in IL who operates a private arboretum. Their home is located in a heavily wooded area of the property, with the septic field lines running out through mature forest(likely few to no maples, and almost certainly no poplars or willows in that vicinity). They flush CuSO4 down the toilet once or twice a year, and have had no issues with root invasion over a period of several decades. Here is a link that might be useful: Controlling root invasion with CuSO4

Perhaps the difference between "couple shower" and "couples shower" is a matter of the ear.....they sound very much the same.....actually it's a lot more difficult to say "couples shower"....so the error was likely mine. And also men are invited....both men who are part of a "couple" and single men friends....with or without a date. Anyhow I think it's a lovely custom....the party given fro my daughter at a friends house on a lovely summer evening, featured jugs of wine set in ice filled copper boilers around the yard and the deck, and similar onef filled with beer. Dinner was a chicken casserole...probably a salad and rolls....don't remember dessert but if I know the friends who gave the shower, probably wedding cake. There were about 80 people invited and each couple was asked to contribute a small amount and the hostesses bought a lovely Wallace silver coffee service. tray coffee pot, tea pot, cream and sugar. It sits on my daughter's buffet server and is used for Christmas Easter, Birthdays and other occasions I am sure. I don't know how the custom got started but it's been the custom among my circle of friends. I have given several, one time it was a back yard hamburger cook out and the gift was a very nice grill, another time it was a fancy cocktail buffet for 80 people ( my house was bursting!) and the gift was the bride's china...not all of it but a couple of place settings of Lenox, another time we did a garden party with oven fried chicken potato salad, beans slaw and strawberry shortcake and the gift was a piece of antique oak furniture. All the parties were given by 2 ior 3 couples and we did all the cooking. We had lots of fun! Linda C

Hey! The handkerchiefs are framed between two pieces of glass. I used small gold frames. The glass was put in place with a hot glue gun. I've had them framed for 14 years and the glue is still in place. They hang on the saw-tooth hangers. One or two, depending on the size. fyi, pick up by the sides with two hands, not one. Depending on the size, you could pop the glue from the glass by picking up with one hand. The baby dresses and purse were framed in deep frames. I took fabric with me for the back and sides (inside frame). The framing shop mounted the fabric to scrap matting material. Only picture I have online is linked below: Here is a link that might be useful:

I feel good about the decision, thx again. Just to be fair, a few loose ends. 1. Moxie, without rehashing the whole story, the best way I can describe it is that they were wary of neighbor issues and perhaps as a result did not act in good faith, and we responded aggressively and strategically, getting them to capitulate. Vague enough!? LOL Just trying to say, in life there is always "our side", "their side", and then the truth. 2. Paradise, I don't want to be nice just because of what they "think about (me)", but because it always feels good to be nice when you can. Karma or whatever. 3. Cyn, It's been a long thread but I don't think it is something to be aghast about at all. It is a second home, they are there most weekends and certainly know that even in peak season we are not always there all the time, and we have rented it out 3 times over the 5 years we have owned it. In fact, I just signed a one week lease for while we will be in Greece next summer.