Weddings for Children of Divorce
Good Day all - I would like your advise on how weddings are handled for children of divorce. First a little back ground on my situation. My parents were divorced when I was about 7/8 both my father and mother were remarried by the time I was 9. I was raised mostly by my mother and step father who took my brother and I out of state shortly there after. My father did everything in his power to prevent this or bring us to live with him, but the family law at in the early 70's was very slanted in favor of the mother. We had regular summer vitiation with our father and his new wife. I talked my mother into letting me move in with my father when I was 12 - I stayed with my father for 3 years, before returning to live with my mother due to conflicts with my stepmother. I again moved back with my father after high school; only to move out on my own very shortly -again due to conflicts with my stepmother. My father and stepmother adopted two children due to my stepmother's inability to conceive children - these two children were given all the benefits of my fathers upper middle class income; my mother and stepfather were very poor... a typical picture. When I decided to get married I felt elopement was my only option; my mother had no money, I could not afford to pay for a wedding and my stepmother would never allow me to plan a wedding with my mother using my fathers money and even if it would have worked how would my mother feel if my stepmother put on my wedding... yeah right!! So I eloped and was divorced with in 2 years. I have watched everyone of my cousins have beautiful expensive weddings put on by there parents - I even attended my step sisters elaborate wedding (not asked to participate in any way). Now I would like to remarry, but alas although I recently became a homeowner and we both have nice jobs - I am in the same situation. I would really like a wedding like the rest were given, as I am my father's first born daughter - but I know I can't expect any help... Do I just be quite and elope, of course this looks bad to the rest of the family (they don't understand the situation or chose to close there eyes) I will not have a pot luck and humiliate my self as the poor relation - it seems so unfair - any advise?