Wow, its been almost 2 years since I originally posted..( I am this thread creator, my name was Mtn-Grl) .My periods are still the same, one month its just 2-3 days, very light, just spotting, and then after 2 weeks I get the heavy one that lasts 14-20 days. Very unconvienient, I am soaking through very fast. So I got my insurance back, went to the doctor. He sent me to the specialist. Checked for fibroids, turns out, they're too small to operate, the doctor didn't think its necessary to remove them. He found something else. The very thick layer of my inner uterus lining. He said its abnormal and in few weeks I'll be going to the surgical center, so they can get samples of my uterus. It freaked me out. Especially after my doctor said he did not like it. And, although this is the different doctor, he says I am not in peri stage yet. I really don't get it. I have all the symptoms. Plus even more now - my skin itches all the time. ( I moisturize it and take good care of my skin) but it itches every now and then. All over my body, my shoulders, my calves, my back etc. And the panic attacks, they got worse, too. I am at work, talking to the customer, smiling and joking, friendly conversation and suddenly BAM, I feel tingling in my face and this weird feeling in my head like I am disconnected from the world around me. So I rub my forehead in embarrassment ( I have a feeling that people could see my fear ) drink a lot of water ( which I have with me at all times, it helps) and try to convince myself "Its just a stupid panic attack" Sometimes it goes away, sometimes it lasts longer. I am terrified of passing out and losing consciousness , it happened to me before - for no reason at all. SO I am always scared it will happen again. Sometimes I cannot take a deep breath, my stomach hurts and I have to run to the bathroom. And everything seems to be all right, my blood sugar, my blood pressure and heart rate. I would be really happy to know that I am entering perimenopause, then I could blame everything on it but the doctors say that's not it. Well, lets see what they say after they take my uterus samples. For now I just have to live with it. Trying to think positive :)

Is there a teaching hospital there? A state run hospital cannot refuse to treat you if you are severely ill as far as I know. Some of the Catholic hospitals used to be charity hospitals you may want to check into that if there's one close. Also, he may qualify for medicaid so check into that. Check with your state's Human Services Division and see if they have anything else. I may be wrong but I think the only way you can add a parent to your insurance is if they live with you and are dependent upon you for the major part of their support. AARP is a good idea but they ask 2 questions before they will insure you and one of those is have you been treated or seen a doctor in the last year (or 6 months) with heart problems. I know this because they're always sending me things wanting me to take it out and I've sent back several telling them that I have Congestive heart failure. I hope he feels better and won't have to have the surgery but if he does it's very important for him to have it ASAP. Oh, I don't think they can take your house if you're living in it. I don't know about if you are renting it but they probably could. Have you thought about signing it over to your sons? Of course you'd have to be able to trust them and you'd want to pay for taxes and any expenses for maintainance unless you are truly giving it to them. I'd be interested in what you find out. We have insurance thru my job but I may have to go on disability and I'd qualify for medicaid but my DH is going to retire soon and he's only 62 so won't qualify for medicare until he's 65. He's already have a quadruple bypass 3 years ago. Nancy

Yep! Super-a$$holes is correct! This has been my problem from day 1. Thanks, Jess! I am going to take your advice and send the medical bill to him along with a copy of the receipt from the store showing the $25 was on the card. I am also going to explain that I had never asked for half of medical costs before, as the divorce papers state, because the insurance he provided had a co-pay and I felt that as long as he provided insurance, I could pay the co-pays. But I will need him to reimburse me half of all medical bills because they have to be paid in full up to the ridiculously high deductible. I am also going to file with the OAG to have my papers modified so that I provide insurance. IMO, it is absolutely disgusting that in my state if the NCP provides medical insurance, the cost is deducted from CS. How is it right to deduct the cost of medical insurance from living expenses???? Already, as it is, CS for NCP in my state is 20%. So 20% is then further reduced by like $280/month for insurance (at least that's what it was the last time we went for modification before he lost his job for a year and got this current one). That leaves me with $320/month in CS, I have to pay full medical cost, yet he gets "credit" from the state for having insurance. What a crock! Yet he feels he has the right to complain about $20 when he doesn't even have a child living in his home. Oh, and get this. When he was unemployed, and didn't have insurance, he still got the amount deducted from CS. When I called the AG's office, they said there is nothing they can do about that. I said that he shouldn't get credit for having insurance when he didn't. They said I would have to file to have it changed to my responsibility, but they can't make it retroactive. See? Always MY responsibility. I seem to be the ONLY parent responsible for being a parent. He gets to play like he's a parent EOW, with none of the responsibilities. Oh, and DS told me yesterday that GF told him I "tricked" them into buying the cleats. Poor DS! They really don't realize how they are pushing him farther and farther away. One day, GF will be on some forum like this saying something like "I have been in his life since he was 3 and I did more for him than his own mother. I just don't understand why he treats me so bad." Even though it's not true. Because that is the fantasy world she lives and believes in.

So very kind of you to share.