I count myself among the "traitors" who have been over at the farmlife forum- I responded to a post about "private trails" and how to keep off unwanted visitors. We have a pretty huge spread here, so I thought the question might fit better over in farmlife. The oranges, lemons, limes and grapefruit have started to flower and I'm out every night listening to the coyotes and breathing deep. As for homesteading tasks, well, I'm in a "job" time of the year- teaching, but after this month I plan to get busy starting seeds! I love California! The only thing growing here now are the lettuces, some baby dill and one beet. The critters have eaten most everything else I planted for the winter. I tried leeks, but I think they've stopped growing- they've been about the size of a knitting needle for about two months now...lol. Hope everyone else is doing well.

SIGH....I guess you didn't understand my point. Let me try and explain it better. When kidneys don't work well, poison builds up in your system and these poisons affect your brain. Irritability can become an issue. Dealing with such an illness can also be really hard in many ways including lots of stress, anxiety, anger and depression. Sometimes anger can be displaced. I remember a lecture on emotions and kidney function I had as a student nurse around 45 years ago and the speaker left a real impression on me back then. I am not enabling, I am understanding a bit of what might be physiologically happening. I don't need a lecture on how to deal with terminal/chronically ill people. I have been on both sides of this knowing first hand what it is like, and I believe in telling people the truth. There are just kinder ways to do this. Sending someone a private email, instead of embarrassing someone in a public forum would have been the best way.

okay, I got your address. the books will be sent out Friday, so expect them early next week.No need to reimburse me, I'm just happy they will be going to a good "home". Enjoy them!

Thank you everybody for caring...also i forgot to answer you about lapband.my kidney dr raised my dry weight which means they take less off you actually gain weight,i had just hit 25lbs and he raised dry weight so it stalled some .But im at 27 now which is right where i should be.no more than 1-2 lbs a weekits been 14 weeks since surgery,Cant eat much,ive been eating soup,but i like soup so im ok with it.i go to dr next Thursday.