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update on my friend from work

15 years ago

Marg is still holding on...but just barely. I got a message from Rach on Sat (I e-mailed her my phone number to call me if she needs/wants to talk or needs help in some way) she said I can't call you because I can't talk without crying. She did give me her cell number and said we could text to stay in touch. I texted her that I was thinking of her and praying for Marg. I got a text yesterday afternoon that she had been called into the hosp early in the morning because they didn't think Marg would survive but she was still holding on by afternoon. I'm going to text her today and see if she'll meet me somewhere (hosp family room or somewhere) so I can try to comfort her a little. I don't care if she's crying (I will be to) I just want to try to help her in some way but I will respect her privacy.

I had hope last week, as of yesterday it's breaking down. I wouldn't say this to Rach but I really wonder if it's time to tell Marg she can go rather than begging her to stay.

Rach and Marg are so close, I've never seen a mother/daughter relationship like theirs. They work together (in the same dept as I do) 4 days a week, take their breaks and lunch together, go shopping together on their Wed's off. I've never seen them have an argument or noticed one angry with the other. Rach said in her message on Sat I can't think of my life without her. They have separate homes and do lead separate lives but are still very close.

I just hope it doesn't come down to taking Marg off life support because I'm not sure Rach could do it. My heart just hurts for both of them.

Diane

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User
15 years ago
Sorry to hear this. Do they know yet what caused this?
dotmom
15 years ago
What a sad time for all involved. I'm sorry.
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Georgysmom
15 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear this, Diane. I was hopeful that the outcome was going to be good.
lynn_d
15 years ago
Oh Diane, I am so sorry. It is so hard to lose a friend, and when that friend is your mom it is so painful. My heart aches for you and for Rach as well. Bless your sweet souls.
joyfulguy
15 years ago
Hi Diane,

How sad that we have such troublous times to deal with ... and the ones who love most are the ones who hurt most when such times come.

Please tell Rach that your friends here are rooting for her ... and trusting that she will be able to see her way through the hurtful time.

Tell her not to worry if she cries while talking to you: almost certainly it will ease her pain. It seems to me that talking is more personal and expresses greater empathy that texting ... but it's important to be guided by her desires.

I offer a prayer for all of you.

ole joyful
rosepetal2
Original Author
15 years ago
Thanks everyone
Debby as far as I know she had a massive heart attack. They had to resuscitate her in the ambulance and didn't expect her to live through the night (5/23) they put her on life support that night as her internal organs were shutting down. Her blood pressure raised the following day and she tried to open her eyes once (as far as I know) but otherwise no response.
Her grandson was born the day all this happened and Rach said in her text that Marg did get to see him. I really don't know the details on this because I thought she was unresponsive since they took her to the hosp, maybe she perked up some while there the first day, I really don't know.
Tomorrow (Wed) is Rach's birthday, I'm sure I know what her birthday wish is.............I can only hope and pray that it will be granted and that Marg will come back to us as the person we know and love but I'm just not sure after this long if that will happen.
Again thanks for the thoughts and prayers, they are appreciated.
Diane

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