Yesterday made 2 years

14 years ago

that I lost my baby girl. I just stayed in bed most of the day. Now I've got to get through May 15th, as that would have been her 22nd birthday. Wow! 22!! Yes, 2 years ago and my life was never to be the same again. THEN, 10 months later I had a major heart attack. THEN, exactly one year after my heart attack, DH was admitted to hospital only to be diagnosed with liver cancer. They say HE only gives you as much as you can handle?? Really??? I can only hope and pray for some good to come around. (sigh)

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heather_on
14 years ago
Sending you and your family big hugs.
angela_nor_calif
14 years ago
I'm sorry you have been given so much to deal with Jamie. Sometimes life just isn't fair. My heart still breaks for you losing your daughter. Sending a big hug to you and prayers for you and your family.
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lisa_fla
14 years ago
I remember it just like it was yesterday. I still remember the rainbow too!
Jodi_SoCal
14 years ago
My heart so hurts for you Jamie. I hope you find peace soon.

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petaloid
14 years ago
It's hard to imagine that it's been two whole years since your girl passed away. Then your heart, then your hubby.

My best wishes go out to you.
Vickey__MN
14 years ago
Oh I so remember that post about Rachel 2 years ago, please know many of us cried with you. I know it has been a hard two years for you, and grieving takes time, so don't let people tell you that need to "start getting on with your life". That will come when you're ready. (((Hugs))) to you and your family.

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gemini40
14 years ago
Jamie I too remember that day so well.You hang in there things will change for the better,they just have to.

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jkayd_il5
14 years ago
Jamie, I too remember your post two years ago. I'm so sorry for the things you are having to endure. Please know we care about you. Hugs
lydia1959
14 years ago
You're in my thoughts so often Jamie. I am so sorry for all you have had to go through. I hope things are better soon.
jannie
14 years ago
I'm so sorry for your losses and troubles. No, God isn't fair in sending tragedy our way. But there is a reward on the other side. You will see your child again.
kacram
14 years ago
((((((Jamie))))))
sjerin
14 years ago
I do wish I could give you a big ol' hug right now, Jamie. Life sure is not fair, and I can only hope you have a big belief in the Afterlife. You never know, you may be an inspiration for someone else.... Do you feel comfortable telling us how your dear husband is doing? I'll keep you all in my prayers.
juellie1962
14 years ago
Wow Jamie - I can't imagine going through what you have. I don't have any answers about fairness in life; just hugs and prayers and good thoughts.
katlan
14 years ago
I can't believe it's been 2 years. What trials you have had to deal with. You are one strong woman. I truly hope for peace in your life.
marie_ndcal
14 years ago
Just sending you hugs and prayers for one day at a time. We do not know why things happen, but with each day we become stronger to handle what happens.
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14 years ago
I can't imagine your grief. My thoughts are with you.
marry
14 years ago
(((Jamie)))
joyfulguy
14 years ago
Sending some good thoughts and hopes your way, Jamie, and offering some prayers for healing for both body and spirit for you and hubby.

I hope that something major may come along soon to ease your burden and help you develop and find peace in your heart.

ole joyful
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14 years ago
Sending lots of hugs your way.
socks
14 years ago
You've had more trouble than most people. I'm so very sorry about your dear daughter and know you think of her every day. Wish I had some words to ease your pain. Take care of yourself.
pianolady2008
14 years ago
((((Jamie))))
pattico_gw
14 years ago
Jamie...I also remember and hurt for you during that time...I hope it get's easier as time goes by....

I've lost mom and dad...and a half bro and half sis. Then raised with my cousin since 1952 they have been my family now I'm losing them left and right.

But I've never lost one of my children. and hope I never have to go through that.

patti
kayjones
14 years ago
Jamie, as OJ said, may you find peace in your life and soon. I will pray for better times ahead for you.
glenda_al
14 years ago
lots of hugs Jamie!
mawheel
14 years ago
((((Jamie))))
Georgysmom
14 years ago
It's hard to believe it's been two years already. (((((Jamie))))).
nanatricia
14 years ago
((((Jamie))))

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