Here's a big hug from me!!!

thanks for the reminder.

I have learned the lesson about hugs too. A smile, a kind word or a big hug can make a big difference in a day. Sometimes I wonder if some people think I'm a nut case when I break out in a big grin, letting my eyes say "its ok", when they are looking glum standing behind their store register, sad at the dentist or stressed with a child-- OR later are these people reminded how nice a smile makes them feel. What ever the case, I seem to get my smile back on my bad days. It's a good thing.

{{!gwi}}

jamie, I'm sorry you are having to go through so much heartache. I hope the hurt heals in time. I think it was so nice of your doctor to give you a much needed hug.
Hugs from friends feel good even when there isn't anything wrong. It is a bond.
I remember in October of 1973 I was going through a terribly sad time. A co-worker I talked to but didn't know well told me I looked so sad. He gave me a warm assuring hug and it made such a difference. All these years I've never forgotten how much that hug meant to me. I think he may be the reason I became a hugger.

Linda ~ thinking of you and remembering you in prayer.

When you think about it, that was something of chance he took in this day and age. It was very sweet of him. Sure hope you're feeling better soon, Jamie.

Jamie - sending another hug your way.

I remember a physician telling me that it was very important to 'touch' a patient and he wasn't referring to the physical exam, he meant a hug, or holding their hand or touching their arm. He said that the bond that forms by touch is just as important in the healing process as medicine or surgery. He said the patient should not feel alone in the process, but that both patient and physician were on this journey together.

Here are more hugs from Ohio, ((((Jamie))))

Tami

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You're right they make you feel good and no words need to be said.A good strong HUG,says it all.Wishing you happiness and all things good.
HUGS
Kathi

I hope things get better for You !
Olgaflowers

I really feel for you, ive been down that very road with my exhusband too, and I know how badly it hurts. Your right, there is nothing better, than a much needed hug.Sending you lots of ((((((((((((hugs))))))))

Hugs mean a great deal. I know I surely could use some, sometimes!!

Here is a big one for you. ((((( jamie ms)))))
ivamae

(((jamie))) You are very lucky to have a doctor that realizes it takes all kinds of medicine to help someone.

I've always felt that when being hugged, I can either feel the good going in me or the bad feelings leave me. Hugs rate very high with me.

I think as a society we undervalue the importance of touch. When I used to sing at a nursing home, I often said the residents' enjoyment of the music was secondary to the pleasure they got from my arm around their shoulders afterward.

More doctors should be like yours!

Hugs are very nice! Both Main Man and myself are big huggers.

Gayle

You are so wise to appreciate these events, Jamie. I'm sorry for what you are going through.

Once my doctor hugged my elderly mother. It meant a lot to her too. When my dad died, my friend gave me a real big hug, not just a polite hug. That meant a lot too.

What a beautiful sentiment you expressed, jamie.

A hug is like a cocoon. Protective, warm, and safe. DH and I are both huggers. Our parents were huggers. We hug each other every day. We also hug our DS, who is 24. He's a hugger, too ;o)

(((Nora)))

Hugs are special!

Aw, Jamie, I'm so sorry you're hurting. This is all news to me. I wish I was there to give you a big hug. I'll remember what you've said today and take it to heart. A friend of mine just lost her mother, she better be prepared to be hugged good and tight.

I think your doctor must be a very astute person. You're lucky to have such a kind one.

(((((Jamie)))))

Jamie,
I am so sorry to hear this about you. I have been there and done that when my X walked out on our 3 kids and myslef
after 19 years of marriage and 24 years of being together. He also was having an affair which he denied but what would
you think after our divorce he got remarried before a year was over!
Please hold your head high, you will get through this and start a wonderful life without him.
I know that hugs are very helpful and that was so nice of your doctor to give you one.
So, I will join him and others with a hug for you.
Take one day at a time.
Deb

I also learned to be a hugger from people other than my family.

(((A big HUG for you jamie)))

My family grew up NOT Hugging...I became a hugger in high school...I taught my parents the value of hugs and they taught my other siblings and family members how much it means...

I'm sorry you're having to go thru this Jamie...his loss by all means...and what a GREAT doctor you have...my doctor hugs me too...he's the sweetest guy and so understanding...There is nothing more healing then a big ole hug!! ((((Jamie)))

My mom's mom was not a "toucher," so my mom taught herself to be one. She rested her hand on our shoulder, gave us hugs now and then.

My son has a VERY high need to be touched; when he makes trips to visit other family members without me, I make a point of telling them that he needs it. (He's 10; maybe he'll get to the "gee, don't touch me, mom" teenager status, but I doubt it.)

So I try to be sure and rest my hand on my coworkers' shoulders, etc., when it feels natural.

So sorry to hear of your troubles. I have a good friend who hugs so hard that it hurts, but that's okay. She's a special person. Wish I could be there in person to give you a big ol' hug.
((((((((((Jamie))))))))))

((Jamie)) Although I didn't divorce (either time!) when I found out that my DH was having an affair, I well remember the feeling that I carried with me all the time. (We did divorce a few years later.)

I've noticed that my DM (who has been widowed for seven years) mentions to me everytime someone gives her a hug. Her beautician hugs her everytime after she cuts her hair, for example.

Thanks for the reminder that we're all in this big bad old world together and we need to try and make it easier on each other.

We are both fortunate to have that type of Dr.
A while ago I was feeling a bit down and my Dr gave me a warm hug before I left her office.
To me it was better than any medicine she could have prescribed.
The world would be a far better place if people gave more genuine hugs!

The power of a (((hug))) can be SO amazing, can't it?
Divorce can be a terrible thing (been there, done that). I remember shortly after my divorce I had a terrible scare with breast cancer and, being a newly single Mom and all, my doctor saw/knew how scared I was and gave me a huge, loving hug at the end of our conversation.
I will always remember that thoughtful gesture... it made me feel SO much better.
Many (((hugs))) to you Jamie!

What a lovely thing to post, Jamie, while you are in such pain, to remind us to reach out to the others around us. You are a special lady, and it's your husband's loss. Your doctor is very compassionate and understanding!

A dear friend of mine went through something similar a few years back. She told me once that shortly after her husband left, she went through a fast food drive-through one day, and broke down in tears because the person who took her order was nice to her. Just a smile and a "have a nice day" reduced her to tears, because she was amazed that someone was being nice to her. So many times small kindnesses mean so much to others, and we don't even know it!

I'm a hugger, but I know I'm now going to hug even more, starting now > (((((Jamie)))))

Jamie,

I'm sorry to hear of the pain that you've been through and that still continues.

And thankful that you have such a perceptive, compassionate doctor.

((((((Jamie))))))

Some good thoughts and prayers going your way.

Good wishes for the days ahead.

ole joyful

Jamie, I'm another one who didn't know about your heartbreak..makes me sad. :(

My ex told me when I was 5 mos. pregnant that he was leaving when the baby was born..which he did..found out later it was because of an affair. Hurtful and scarey, too, having to face the world with two kids and needing to find a job.

Lots of Granlan Hugs and a Smile :)

I grew up in a non-hugging family but have become a hugger as an adult. Touch is powerful. As a guy I'm cautious about initiating a hug with women that I'm friends with until I know that they are huggers as well. Some of the guys that I'm friends with are huggers, too. A good hug is better than a belch, a beer, and a punch in the shoulder.

Ron

If some of you didn't see this before ...

... many say that it's the best medicine around.

And free! (from perceptive, caring people).

I hope that you receive a good hug today.

And give (at least) one. Plus a sunny smile.

ole joyful

Jamie, How are you?((((((((Jamie))))))
(((((Granlan))))))))))... sounds like a real @$$, you were lucky to be rid of him in the long run...

My hubby's family were not ones to touch. It was so sad. We were married almost 30 years when the in-laws died. In all that time I never saw them hug anyone. So sad. We are all big huggers in our family. My 40 year old son never leaves without giving me a hug and telling me he loves me. He always tells me when he phones, too.. It is wonderful.. It only takes seconds.. I love hugging my grandkids.. makes me tingle all over.. My heart skips a beat when I see older couples holding hands..

Hang in there, Jamie. There will be better days ahead.. Just keep on hugging!!!!!!!!

Susie

AWW Jamie,
I know from experience what you are going through and also hugs do mean alot. So, I am sending you a few.
Hold your head up and go on with your life. Your ex (sob) will be the one to suffer. Live On!!!
Deb

Having caring doctors means a lot in times of crisis. I remember about 25 years ago, my sister "knew" her three-month fetus was dead and asked me to go with her to the doc instead of worrying her husband. After an exam, we waited out in the hall. The doc returned with red crying eyes and knelt in front of Sis, taking her hands in his. In a choked voice, he said he didn't know how to say it, but the baby was dead and he was about 6 months along, not three. Doc's suffering and sharing it with us meant a lot to both of us.

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I know what you mean.I'm in my 6th week of recovery from a total knee replacement,and today i got a friendship card from my best friend of 44years.She came to see me in the hospital and comes over at least once a week to see me,but today that card meant so much to me and what she wrote in it about our long lasting friendship really touched my heart.
By now most people think i should be fully recovered and tripping the light fantastic(dancing) and even forget to ask how i'm doing when i talk with them.
What most don't realize is this is a long painful healing process,and we get depressed because we can't drive and have to depend on others for help.So for her to take the time to send me another card was really special to me.

I hope you'll be able to move on with your life with little or no problems.
Kathi

Sigh. I long so much to be a hugger and touchy person, but I am just not. I no longer jump out of my skin when presented with a hug or a hand pat (at one time, my stranger alarm would have went off LOL), but it still does not come natural to me.

I have noticed lately there are more times when I feel I wanted to hug or touch a person, and that is a start. It never would have occurred to me before. Still it feels akward to go ahead and do it.

This is something I have to work on.

I am huggy and touchy with DD, go figure.