I saw that when it made the rounds on FB months ago. Very funny, if you've watched a lot of the Toddler & Tiara shows you'll pick up on all the subtle nuances. I was ROTFL. I am a closet T&T watcher, yet another show DH cringes over whenever he see me watching it. He doesn't get why I watch most of the shows I'm hooked on...Real Housewives, Hoarders, one dumb show after another. lol

It takes a lot to get me to turn off a movie but I've definitely done it. I'm trying to convince myself to do it more often instead of suffering through something. I sometimes either fast forward through just to see what happens at the end, or otherwise occupy myself (go through the mail, sew on a button, etc.) while letting the movie run, just in case something good actually does happen. One movie I was forced to sit through because we were watching it with friends and they wanted to finish it, but that I would have definitely turned off was Rachel Getting Married. OMG was that a horrifically painful and boring movie. I'm a huge fan of Coen Brothers films so all the ones mentioned above that people hated, I loved. I guess I just have the same sense of humor as they do. Also, Moulin Rouge, it took me about 20-30 minutes into the movie to actaully "get it" but once I did, I fell in love. I also watch a good number of foreign films. Subtitles don't bother me and I've seen some really good movies that I would have otherwise missed. Language and violence in general don't bother me. However graphic personal violence where we're forced to witness one person making another suffer on screen is not tolerable to me. I agree about M. Night Shyamalan too. And if you don't like him, don't see The Happening (his latest). I hate preachy movies that "warn" us of all the bad things that will happen to us if we don't start taking care of the earth. Ick. I get the vast majority of my movies in dvd form from the library. I have access to two public library systems and between them I see all the new releases and lots of oldies, indies and foreign films. I do have to wait for some of the more popular movies but I don't mind. I reserve movies on line, and pick them up at my local branches on the way home from work when they come in. It's free and I get to keep them for 2 weeks.

I think some people on this thread are projecting. Look, if I was in a marriage where my husband had slept with some woman before we married and LIED to me about it and then seven years later I find out that he lied AND that he's STILL in contact with that person - I would be suspicious too. And I would be hurt - VALIDLY so. I probably would not snoop - but let's get real here, I've read tons of messages from women who'd go snooping through email to check and see too. I doubt some of the posters here would call those women controlling. Even if those women were wrong - which they would be. So is the OP's husband, but he's not the only one who is/was wrong. The OP was WRONG. Period. She slept with another man - probably as a way to get back at her husband (when he was not her husband) because she felt like her now-husband wasn't paying her enough attention back then. And then she lied about it. That's childish. It's even MORE childish to start communicating with this other guy NOW! I know that people are perceptive and I bet your husband picked up on your confusion around this man - even if he didn't know that something really had happened, he's probably no dummy and that may be why he snooped. It's definitely not an excuse - but we don't know that the husband was simply a snooper then - apparently he's only started snooping recently unless I misread. In all fairness, the OP doesn't seem like the type to be able to really cover something like that up - just as controllers can leave 'red flags' hanging out - people who've slept together can sometimes just give off flags too. So, the OP needs to go into counseling - because she's having an emotional affair with this other guy and her husband would have a right to be upset about that - because I don't even think the OP recognizes what she's doing there. Now, if the husband has no right to be the victim - NEITHER DOES the OP. It's possible that the husband is being controlling - but I'm ASTONISHED at the FUROR of posters on this thread who seem to be trying to paint the OP as a victim (wait, no I'm not - after lurking and seeing how certain posters typically attack the male side in nearly every instance - some even going so far as to accuse people of being trolls because the woman in that situation actually looked like the guilty party - imagine that). I wish people would leave their agendas at the door - the OP isn't a victim either - she's simply placed herself in a position where she doesn't have any moral high ground - and neither does her husband. It's a situation where his worst tendencies are coming out and SO ARE HERS. It is what it is and they BOTH need counseling. And no, I'm not a man - I'm a woman - but I think that some moderation is needed in this situation - they both need counseling. When/if you look at the situation out of context, the husband does appear controlling - but we don't know all of the facts. Neither does her 'group' - I wonder if her 'group' even knows of her emotional affair? Their marriage has problems on multiple levels, but the main issue appears to be trust. The husband is wrong for snooping - but then again, the wife is wrong for carrying on emotional affairs with this other man. That emotional energy should be devoted to her marriage. If she doesn't want to do that then she needs to step out and away from the marriage - honestly. Not on the down low like she's been doing. The husband only recently found out about her sleeping with this man long ago - not only that, but that the wife lied about it. This isn't trivial and I'm saddened at the attempts of some on this thread to paint the husband as a controlling zealot in some effort to minimize the betrayal the husband probably feels - compounded by the fact that the wife is still talking to this man and basically having an emotional affair with him. No, it doesn't make him a victim, but neither is the OP. They both have issues. They both need counseling - the husband needs to learn that you don't build trust by trying to control the other person (you don't get trust that way, but fear) and the OP needs to learn that you shouldn't put emotional energy that should be reserved for your marriage into another man - even if you aren't sleeping with him. They need to learn how to communicate in a way that builds trust. Part of that will involve some self-sacrifice. It *could* be that the OP went to this other guy now because her husband is smothering her - but then he just clings harder. But that doesn't make her right either. It is what it is. Please - both you and your husband need counseling together - and separately.

What kind of a society are we living in that thinks it is just great to see how sexy we can make a six year old girl? In the Tom Hanks skit, right before the little girl leaves the stage she shouts out, "Talk dirty to me!" It was just on Oprah today. The audience of mostly women applauded and laughed. Maybe I am living in a dream world, but I think this is appalling.