And in today's environment, the accused was convicted. It just as easily could have been me. My heart and love goes out to this innocent person. What incredible pain he must live in. To be falsely accused and then convicted is the most horrible experience. In the old days we accused them of being witches and burned them at the stake. Now we call them sexual and bury them in jails. Never stop loving. Love is god inside of you. god would never hurt anyone. Love will never hurt anyone. Of course I am talking about real spiritual love not the movie love. I will give an interesting truth of the universe. If you have fear then you always must face that fear until you finally love & trust god and walk through the fear. Then when you find upon walking through the fear that god protected you, you will be healed and never have to walk through it again. For those who fear rape. I suspect they will face rape some day. Because they must face the fear to heal the fear. Those who do not fear being raped will never face rape because it does not need to be healed. The lesson is two fold. do not fear. walk through your fears to heal them. I think it is really bad to teach your child to fear being raped. Better to teach confidence that the child can take care of herself. Give her the knowledge & confidence of what to do in a situation but always make sure there is no fear. Fear is a block to god. Those who do not believe in god will believe in fear. Those who know god loves them and they trust in a good god protecting them will not have fear. Why should I fear when god protects me. Fear says god will not protect me. It is a statement of self non love. If you love yourself then you know god loves you and protects you. All decisions based on fear always are the wrong decision. All decisions based on Love are always the correct decision.

A neighbor sent a couple of letters to all the houses on our street, saying that his two cats (brothers) had gotten into some rat poison somewhere. One died but the other made it after a lot of care. He is afraid to let the kitty out. According to him, the surviving kitty keeps looking for his brother and keeps asking to go out. The neighbor asks us not use poison and to remove any poisoned rat, so he can let his kitty go out again.

Neither I nor anyone else suggested that, Glenda. In fact, I was careful to say I didn't want to criticize. With that in mind, Suzieque's post was well said. I don't recall seeing the "Pet Peeves" thread, but I'll hazard a guess that some of the things that annoy some people are not a source of annoyance to others. And, as Suzieque said, most annoyances are not big things. But of course that doesn't stop them from being annoying . . . to some. I guarantee that those of us who do find those teaser subject lines annoying (just annoying, mind you--we're not tearing out our hair or spiking our blood pressure or making demands) have plenty of small stuff that we don't sweat. And I'm pretty certain that those who claim to have learned not to react to little things have something (some small thing) they find irritating as hell.

Thanks all; sounds like I'm not the only one that has trouble deciding from time to time. I agree with the difference between liking pictures in a book or online versus living in it. I remember about 4 years ago, maybe 5, I loved the shabby chic pink look. I just knew I wanted it. I did two rooms in all white - one has lots of light blue accents, the other pinks and lavenders. They looked really good - straight out a magazine. I hated both of them. Even though I liked the look, I couldn't stand being in the rooms. One was redone in rich reds and gold and black, the other in, uh, gold, and rich reds. Hmmmm .... I'm sensing a pattern here. Thankfully (at least I *think* it's a good thing) I uncovered a new element - something that's going to restrict my choices a bit and therefore hopefully make the decision less stressful. When I was ripping up the various kitchen flooring layers .... carpet on top of pad on top of old vinyl on top of underlayment ... I accidentally ripped up a piece of the underlayment. I didn't mean too, was planning on putting the new floor (hadn't decided yet, was waiting on updated budget figures) and guess what I found? Yup, the kitchen had hardwood under there too! Hallelujah! It, however, is different than in the rest of the house. It's a wider plank, wider spacing, a MUCH more casual look and a more porus wood - meaning if I use the same stain it will not look the same and will likely look funny where they join. That led me to choose a contrasting stain choice so that it looked purposeful. I was torn between ebony (with cream cabinets), weathered / distressed barnwood (with either cream, black or barn red cabinets) and whitewash (with black cabinetry). Today when I started sanding, it became clear that I was likely not going to get it sanded white enough (without sanding down so deep I hurt it) to do a whitewash. The floor has gaps and grooves and the stain color fills those low spots. Trying to sand down that deep will leave me with a paper thin floor. That takes that color out of the options.