I've made my mother's sausage stuffing the day/night before for years because I worked & just didn't have enough time or energy to do everything on Thanksgiving. For the past several years I've put together Party Potatoes (with sour cream & cream cheese) & bake them on Thursday. I try to get whatever cranberry relish I done earlier in the week, & even appetizers on Wednesdays. Sure is easier, & I think the stuffing tastes better the second day.

Guess because of the farm and time being a premium as well as oven space we got use to a lot of things made ahead. We usually have 12-15 people. I make my desserts (cakes, pies but not the Pistachio Salad) ahead and freeze them. Definitely make the cranberry relish ahead and after letting it set a day freeze it. It gets better with time.(Usually make several gallons for the rest of the year.) Sometimes I'll make up my crescent rolls and freeze them before baking but they are better fresh Then the night before I make up all my casseroles, (squash, sweet potatoes, onion, etc._ and get them ready and in the dishes. Cover them with foil and mark the temp and cooking time on them and put them in the frig. On TD I start at about 4 am. I mix up my stuffing, and get the turkey going. I cook my ham in my roaster, the turkey in the gas oven and the last 2 hours I'll use the electric oven to cook the casseroles. Veggies like corn, peas, mashed potatoes are last minute. Mom makes her Waldorf salad :-/ last minute usually so it doesn't get watery. Some of the family and friends I don't get to see very often so I'd rather be visiting with them instead of trying not to miss something in a recipe listening into all the fun in the other room or measuring while trying to have a conversation. (Not one of my strong suits. I always leave something out when I'm talking to somebody and cooking) It's not all fresh but a lot of the folks that come fix dinner out of a TV dinner box so they're always happy and stuffed with the fare that's put on the table. And I get to spend time with everyone.

"...The definition of gravy refers specifically to a sauce made from pan drippings of a roasted protein. If you are not roasting the protein first, where are the drippings? Roasting necks and wings is not gonna do it! IMO," I picked up our turkey Monday night and did all the misc shopping. They had big necks and wings. (usually gone by the week or two before thanksgiving). Decided to make another fresh stock. One wing, one neck. DH roasted with veg when he got home. Then into the mauslin. I got home close to midnight last night and did the finishing. Straining and chilling. 2 quarts of gorgeous stock for gravy and the stuffing/dressing. Roasted proteins make drippings. Necks and wings are proteins and they are huge.

I think it depends on family dynamics. If hosting in your own kichen the dance is familiar and pretty stressless. We have hosted so many times over the years that it has become an easy meal to prepare. We are a good team. DH makes the gravy when the bird comes out to rest. Timing is everything. I even set my table the day before or two days with the serving stack of vessels deciding what foods/sides might go into where. The many years visiting my parents were always an insane zoo. We prepped as much as possible at home here, then traveled the morning of. (less trafic). Two cranberry sauces, a couple salads, pomegranite dressing, mixed veg and roots cut and marinating that just needs to go on a sheet pan. Two pies made. My dressing/stuffing. Around 2015 we started making the gravy ahead. Only when traveling. I could usually get a few turkey wings and a leg to make stock and gravy from the butcher. One year i had to purchase the smallest quality turkey i could find and butcher for the wings and legs myself for stock. Roasted the breast as well to have much better bird slices than mom's giant dry butterball. Dry under-seasoned dressing/stuffing. Watery over-cooked under-seasoned, (no seasoning), beans and sweet potatoes.... If a past thanksgiving was ever a struggle, consider the do-aheads. Not everyone has a sympathetic family. Often sit back and wait while visiting and watching a ball game. If you enjoy the 'dance' that is different. My family can't cook, don't cook. I enjoy the dance and only get a good meal if i make it. Trying to prep/cook in my mothers kitchen, yikes. 6-8 family members in the kitchen built for one or two. Sister resting on the counter with a glass of wine talking non-stop about nothing----in front of the sink, then in front of the prep'chopping area. No clue about focus and timing. Clue-less about the kichen triangle efficiency. Bourdain was speaking about just that. When he stopped working in restaurants, he had a wack cast of characters at his home for Thanksgivings. His experience cooking for 2-300 in a restaurant setting bled over into a home meal. Do-aheads meld/infuse flavors. Like a next day chili or lasagna. He could easily make a variety of sauces on the fly. I have no doubt his thanksgiving gravy made ahead was nothing but amazing having had his meals at LesHalles. I made my stock last night and a big batch of miropoix for my dressing/stuffing. Now in the freezer. Not necessary if we stay home but i had the veg needing a plan like leek tops and an abundance of celery and carrots, onions, shallots. Not sure yet about traveling but if my parents need help, turning 93 and 92 this week, we have an easy thanksgiving if they want/need us. My do-aheads will make it a bit easier. We have been taking turns visiting. My sister just left. My brother visited last month. We spent a week a few months ago. Dad just might be sick of us. 😜