Cats and dogs, different rules?
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- 16 years ago
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Comments (14)Not only have I been through this a time (or 100), but I've made more than my fair share of mistakes integrating dogs and cats over the last 50 yrs. Perhaps my most notable error in judgement was with Tasha when she was a wee pup. Tasha is a herder cross with VERY INTENSE herding instincts. When I adopted her as a very young puppy, I made the mistake of assuming that my dozen or so cats at the time would teach her appropriate boundaries and behaviors. Unfortunately, she was such a maniacal pup (who matured into an equally maniacal adult), that the cats simply avoided her whenever possible. I kept waiting for them to get fed up with her shenanigans and put her in her place, but they never did. So now Tasha is a very pushy adult who believes that everyone and everything (except me, of course) should bow to her every whim. She is a complete pain with the cats, nipping at their heels to move them away from everything she considers hers (which is everything, period), and going after them anytime they look like they might be having too much fun or getting too much attention. I am constantly having to tell her to back off. If I'd just stepped in when she was a puppy and established the rules that the cats weren't enforcing themselves, I wouldn't have to be monitoring her all the time now. I don't think she'd intentionally hurt any of the cats, but her drive to control is so intense that she could inadvertantly cause injury in her zeal. So please believe me that it's MUCH easier to relax rules later once your cat and dog have made peace with each other than it is to never establish any rules at all. Laurie...See MoreCat went after the dog
Comments (21)I think that your new resolve to let the pets sort things out is admirable, and a big, huge step in the right direction. If you can get your mom on board too, then you could both go off into another room to make coffee or fold laundry or occupy yourself in a similar way if a scuffle breaks out. (If there is a special show or movie on TV that you really want to see with no interruptions you might lock the cats out of the room while things are calm before the program begins so that no arguments occur between the pets while you are watching.) To the best of my memory none of my cats ever drew blood when smacking my puppies in the past. When I wrote in a previous post that they got their noses "shredded" regularly I was using imagery and exaggeration to make the point that these conflicts are normal and commonplace. One of my cats did claw the nose of a neighbor's German shepherd once who came up onto the front porch where my cat was sleeping and, judging from the yelps of the retreating dog, probably drew blood. Cats can distinguish between a strange dog who doesn't belong and a dog who is a member of the household, and the latter is treated with more tolerance and restraint even when the cat is meting out discipline to its doggie housemate. No dog or cat in my experience has ever had its eye clawed by a cat. All animals have a protective reflex to close their eye lids if an object approaches. The Siamese cat I had when I was a kid was quite a fighter and used to really get into it with strange cats in the neighborhood. I am talking actual real cat fights here, not a tussle between housemate kitties. He came home frequently with bite and claw wounds, some *near* his eyes, but his pretty blue eyes lasted him a lifetime unmarred. If one of your cats should inflict a wound on one of their housemates I'd recommend that you treat it with peroxide for a few days to prevent an infection, as you would with any puncture wound. But I really doubt that any of your pets will have skin broken on their noses, and having an eye clawed out is only slightly more likely than being hit with falling debris from a satellite. Unneutered dogs can be a bit more feisty, but since you plan on neutering Punkin this year anyways, it sounds like you have this covered. I've always fed my pets separately to avoid fights. I would keep on feeding your kitties separately from your dogs just as you are doing now. This is a good policy. Everyone deserves to be able to eat in peace. Food is a key thing that tends to provoke conflicts, and your pets are already in conflict over their own space and place in the household. Your pets need to sort out the issues of their place in the heirarchy, but there is no point in giving them something else to argue over. If prescribed medication helps you and your mom to overcome your anxieties then it is a good idea to take the medication according to the doctor's directions. If you have time amidst your school work to fit in a walk with your mom and the dogs everyday, I also think this would have immeasurable relaxing effects. Punkin might be aggravating the cat simply because he has excess energy to burn with no outlet for it. A tired dog is always a good dog. Anyways good luck with your college studies and try not to worry over the critters!...See MoreStray Cat Rules
Comments (13)that is very cute. sounds like how we deal with all the strays we found. our latest is named Shelby and she is slowly graduating from downstairs to upstairs. (and this is the cat that my husband said he'd never allow in the house. ha!)...See MoreHow do you store your dog/cat food?
Comments (37)Oooh, AnnaC54 and Poohpup, your pooches are perfectly adorable! LOL that they keep their bowls to remind you it's dinner time. Ours doesn't bring his bowl to us, rather he summons us to him lol. He gives a bark and waits there until we get his message: cal_quail, like annkh I totally can't relate to a picky eater. Our dog eats almost anything including some of his absolute favorites which are raw brocolli stalk slices and raw brussels sprouts. His absolute favorites are broccoli, cantaloupe, apples, pears and cauliflower. For your picky eater, could mixing in a few thin slices of fruit or veggies help? Just a thought. Bellsmom, love your setup too. One last pic of Hemi when he was a pup (in our previous home's kitchen). Man, now I want another puppy, they are so cute at that age when they are all head and paws. Anyway, this is proof that he's definitely not a picky eater, haha....See More- 16 years ago
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