Sweeby, I've noticed that your advice here (in the short time that I've been reading here, a whole couple of hours) has been incredibly fair and sensible. Thank you so much for taking time to respond to me, it is very much appreciated. - On step 1, I'm right there with ya. I have printed it out and told DF to put it in a 3-ring binder. I wouldn't want to run the risk of her deleting it, so we have no intention of bringing it up to her. - On emailing - I told BF that he needs to do this. He started to, and then a strange thing happened - his email account disappeared. We aren't sure if she took it over, read everything, and then deleted his acct, but we can't figure out what else could have happened. We have since changed his passwords and things to ridiculous things that she couldn't possibly guess. But if she had taken it over, she would know we were watching what she's saying and would have stopped (she never has the guts to say things TO him, for obvious reasons). So I don't know... but I'll remind him to be diligent about it. They were married for 7 years so he knows her better than I do. He's hurt by her lies, but not shocked. - On being polite, we agree with you completely. She would only use it against us if we showed her the anger she deserves... so far, she has done enough to make herself look bad, and we will keep it that way. -Visitation specifics: There are any, besides that they must be at her parents' house, since that's where she lives. There is no "when" or how often in the decree. And I should clarify the distance thing - first, she moved to her parents' house, which is an hour away. Then we BF and I got serious, HE is the one who moved further away (but with the understanding that we could still meet up and get the kids). Now that she hasn't kept her word, he deeply regrets moving. We're both going to move to the area this winter to be closer to them. That's when our lease is up, also he's trying to get a certification during the next 4 months so he can get a better paying job. Between CS and health coverage, his take home pay is paltry. He couldn't even afford to pay rent anywhere without a roommate (he had a roommate before he moved in with me). Again, thank you so much for responding. It helps so much just to be heard. This crap is tearing me up.

Of course it's not that simple you pompus pain in my a$$. This child does NOT have a learning disability. She's 13, she's hormonal, and she's gone from an environment where her BM did not correct her for bad grades to an environment where it's expected (by her father) that she do as well as she can. She was allowed to slide on every D or below by her BM. This child is not stupid as her grades the past two weeks have shown, and she does not have a learning disability. She simply doesn't want to apply herself. Question though.... Since when did you become an expert in my state's special education system? As a special education instructor of 6 years(yeah that's right.) as well as a qualified Calculus and trigonometry teacher I think I'd know a little more about the system here considering I fight for the kids in my system daily. You haven't seen learning disabilities until you've actually been there. That website doesn't show junk. It was written by a bunch of stuffed shirt politicians who wouldn't know a learning disability from a rock. "Child Find." The state must identify, locate, and evaluate all children with disabilities in the state who need special education and related services. To do so, states conduct "Child Find" activities. A child may be identified by "Child Find," and parents may be asked if the "Child Find" system can evaluate their child. Parents can also call the "Child Find" system and ask that their child be evaluated. Or Referral or request for evaluation. A school professional may ask that a child be evaluated to see if he or she has a disability. Parents may also contact the child's teacher or other school professional to ask that their child be evaluated. This request may be verbal or in writing. Parental consent is needed before the child may be evaluated. Evaluation needs to be completed within a reasonable time after the parent gives consent." That's step one. "THE STATE MUST identify, locate, and evaluate all children with disabilities in the state who need special education and related services." The state. Different states, different procedures. As we were concerned about this child when she came to live with us we had her tested before she was properly enrolled in school. By the schools and by private methods. As her grades from the previous year showed that she did well the first semester and dropped off towards the end of the year, as a parent and as an instructor, of course I was concerned. So the tests. As I've said probably 50 times before this child shows NO sign of a learning disability. Her vision has been tested twice in 6 months because she does wear glasses, and that's a concern also. Care to grill me some more. Want me to fax you the copies of the test scores and outcomes? A therapists notes? A graph of her sleep cycle? A copy of my grocery lists? Hell we'd might as well be thorough here since you're such an expert.

before I completely lose the ability to use normal punctuation like other adults (breathlessly gasping).. ==>> hey!!! .. WHAT??? ..... lol ... learned a new word today.. who knew.. lol ken and i dont mean .. punctuation ...

I saw more films this past year than in any year in my memory. Four. Which isn't that many but its three to four more than most years for me. All of the ones that I saw ended up winning multiple awards. My favorite from this year was Blade Runner 2049, mostly since the original is one of my all time favorite movies and this long awaited sequel perfectly captured the feeling of the original and extrapolated it beautifully. I find it somewhat ironic that Dunkirk won awards for Sound Editing and Sound Mixing when my most vivid memory of the movie was that the sound was so painfully loud that it made the movie one of the worst movie experiences of my life. Three Billboards I mostly enjoyed for the performances, especially Frances McDormand. I had only seen one other "Best Actress" nominated films, but I had no doubt that Frances McDormand would win. Lastly I was initially pleased to see that "The Shape of Water" and its Director Guillermo del Toro were even nominated, usually movies that are viewed as science fiction are dismissed from consideration out of hand. I expected they might fob it off with some technical award or screenplay award, so I was surprised that it received two of the most prestigious awards.