Doing the right thing?

15 years ago

Hi, I've been lurking for a bit, and thought this may be the best place to get some input because you all seem very friendly, helpful, caring and supportive in your responses. (hope this is the correct forum for this too!)

The secondary school where I work is having some problems with misconduct between some teachers (who have now been arrested) and students.

There is going to be a big hearing about the findings of an investigation to see if the school will be severely reprimanded, people in administration removed from their positions, etc.

I don't have any direct knowledge about the misconduct, but I do have an opinion about the school environment and how certain things seems to be overlooked depending on who is involved, and I do have personal experience with how investigations have been done in the past by the school administration.

One assistant veep flat out lied about something, and the same veep also made a mockery of an investigation by questioning two students together (involved in a different issue about he-said, she-said relative to a teacher), rather than separately, AND the same veep did NOT question the other teacher who was in the room at the time as a witness. Anyway, that veep has since gone elsewhere.

I shared my opinion & personal knowledge (not disclosing my name out of fear) with the investigative committee about the two incidences because I have direct and personal knowledge of them, and of how the school mis-handled them.

I believe I did the right thing when I shared my opinion and personal knowledge, because I thought and thought about it, prayed on it, and decided I would feel better for having said something, and let the committee make the decision. The school climate is such that you are targeted if you don't show support for the administration.

I feel very alone as I hear people getting on the school's bandwagon, showing support so the admin sees who shows up to the hearing. A lot of people are new and trying to keep their jobs. It's like if you don't show up or are heard talking how much you support the school and how incompetent the investigation is, you may be in danger of getting your walking papers. I just say nothing.

I think of it as a matter of doing the right thing by adding more information, versus loyalty. It wasn't easy. I'd appreciate some warm fuzzies, and if I am waaaay off base, please be gentle in correcting me.

Thankyou,

Kay

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sheilajoyce_gw
15 years ago
Is this a private school or a one secondary school district? I think you have done the right thing in reporting to the investigative committee what you OBSERVED, but then I would suggest you back off and let the district leadership, the committee, and the authorities take care of it. You have done what you could, so now leave it up to those in charge.
missindia2020
15 years ago
I feel sorry that you have been put into that situation. You've provided what information you felt you should so I'd say nothing more. You can be sympathetic for what the school is experiencing without giving the idea that you are any particular side. Ex: Let's say some coworker says "what do you think of such and such?" trying to get your opinion on the situation or back you into a corner, you can be neutral by saying "I don't know ALL the details so I'm praying for discernment" and walk away. That's non-commital and yet supportive.
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cream_please
15 years ago
Standing up for moral issues is getting harder and harder these days. You've got to decide, what's more important to you, your own integrity, or what 'other' people think about you? (And you certainly want to care about what God thinks about you.)
We used to tell our children, "Just because everyone else jumps off the bridge, doesn't mean you have to."
Sometimes doing the right thing means paying a price.
You seem like a person who cares about right and wrong.
Try to get some moral support from those close to you: friends, family, pastor, parents, siblings. I truly wish you the best.
Cream
carol_in_california
15 years ago
You can never go wrong doing the right thing......as long as your observations are presented without prejudice.
Keep doing the right thing and you will be a good role model for others.
kikibutler
Original Author
15 years ago
Thank you so much for your kind words. I shared what I knew firsthand, and as mentioned, now it's up to the others to determine what, if anything, will be done.
Kay
glenda_al
15 years ago
Ditto Carol Ca
FlamingO in AR
15 years ago
I think Carol said it very well. Doing the right thing is often the hardest thing to do and it's plain to see that you've thought about this a lot and didn't do it out of any spite towards anyone and you have the best interests of the innocent at heart.

Hopefully the people investigating this will also do the right thing. Good luck to you, Kay, and I hope you sleep really well knowing that you took the right stand.
wildchild
15 years ago
Carol said it as well as anyone could.
pfllh
15 years ago
Hopefully the State Board of Education is involved. If not, perhaps they would like to see any newspaper articles or letters sent out pertaining to the situation. You don't have to write anything just put them in an envelope and mail.
Perhaps your state representative would appreciate the same info.
Also the national media seems to zero in on schools in turmoil.
If enough attention is given, they will do the right thing as all eyes are on them.
It's sad that doing the right thing these days seems to be a lonely walk. If you stand by the truth, it will all come out, maybe just not right away.
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