Counting the days

15 years ago

till Tues!

It's that time of year again. DH takes off the month of March most years (he has to use any leftover vacay time from the previous year by March 31 or lose it). Sometimes it even stretches back into Feb, but we'd used a good bit of his time off this past year, what with one thing or another. He's only got to work 1 more day, and I'll have him for the month!

I love having him home--we have a lot of 'stuff' scheduled (drs. appts, arranging for a headstone for my aunt, etc). And we'll take advantage of the time off to hit some of our favorite restaurants for lunch. But we do plan to get the house in the suburbs in order so we can finally list it to sell.

So I was wondering--do you love when your spouse can stay home for extended periods? or do you see it as them being 'under foot'. Personally, even after 38 years together, I still love spending every minute I can with that great guy I married. We never seem to run out of stuff to talk about, never get tired of each other, can't remember the last time we disagreed seriously over anything.

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Lindsey_CA
15 years ago
Hubs and I have been together just shy of 30 years and we're just shy of our 25th wedding anniversary (wedding day was the 5th anniversary of when we started "going together"). And even after all that time, I love being with him. We both work full time, so our time together is precious and wonderful.
nicole__
15 years ago
Good for you! and Yes....I enjoy all the time I have with my DH!!! He takes off for a day here and there and we go adventuring.....hiking....staying in condos...camping. He's my best friend. I like to disagree or play "what if"....I don't expect anyone to agree all the time. We do share the same likes and dislikes in most things tho. :0)
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Well, I guess I'm the odd ball out. DH and I have been married 22 years and I love being with him, but not all the time. During hunting season, we have property in SC (we're in FL) and he goes up there every other weekend to hunt. I truly LOVE having this time alone to be...ME!!! I can read all day if I want or not, I don't have to cook, I can quilt as long as I want or watch Lifetime TV with a box of Kleenex in my lap. We do go up there together a few times out of the year with our 2 dogs and relax, take long walks, hit all the flea mkts and yard sales. He likes his 'me' time as much as I do. The homecomings are real nice too!
ruthieg__tx
15 years ago
Most of the time we are very compatible and spend a lot of time together...I have to admit that it took us both a little stretch of time after retirement to get there though. We enjoy our separate time though and don't feel the need to be together 24/7 ...Infact, it might drive me nuts to have him "under my feet constantly....I don't measure my love by the need to be stuck to each other.....We have some different interests ...probably too many that the other one doesn't share and I enjoy and cherish the fact that he doesn't have to be stuck to me 24/7.
lydia1959
15 years ago
Enjoy your time together Azzalea.

I'm with Renee though... I LOVE when my hubby is gone for the weekend or even a couple weeks hunting. I like being alone and having the house to myself. I really think it wouldn't matter WHO I was married too... it's just that I like my "ME" time.
vala55
15 years ago
I love for my husband to stay home, he was never "under foot". He was busy in the garage with his hobbies, if we didn't have plans. When his company started letting the employees use their vacation for long weekends we went to garage sales or flea markets or took a trip over the week end.
maire_cate
15 years ago
Ah Azzalea, what a loving comment! We'll be celebrating our 38th soon and while I love my DH dearly and treasure our time together I also wonder how our days will be when he retires. He usually only takes a week off at a time and even then he's in touch with the office or brings work with him. We have a vacation place in the mountains and he loves going up there, puttering around the house and grounds, fishing, relaxing. But only a week at a time!

Unfortunately he will have the biggest adjustment. He's fully aware that he has worked extremely hard to create a successful business and put money aside for our kids education and our retirement and he has sacrificed a lot along the way. It's going to be an interesting transition.

Enjoy your March Madness!
nanny98
15 years ago
Retirement and my DH being 'underfoot' has been sort of like our whole married life (57 years). I always enjoyed the short periods when I just had the kids....then being alone for lots of 'me' time; contrasted by the long absences being a military wife entailed. We just made the best of it; and I can now say that it truly has been a very good life. We have many wonderful shared memories and have been able to give each other some space and still do many shared things considering how very 'different' we are. HE LOVES ME and always has, and that is the very best thing.

Nanny

BTW...I didn't ALWAYS know that he loved me so very much.
susie53_gw
15 years ago
For the most part I love having him home. We have been married 43 years and he has been retired 3. We have a place in the southern part of our state so we both get time away from each other. I wouldn't know what to do without him. He built a big new barn just before he retired and spends time out there, too. He has a heated shop, cable tv and a lazyboy out there.. What more could we both ask for??
mary_c_gw
15 years ago
My DH retired early about 15 years ago. I was still running my home-based business - so the first words out of my mouth were:

"I married you for better or worse, not for lunch."

That was absolutely the best thing I could have said, LOL. My lunch was usually a tub of yogurt and a piece of fruit, and he was used to a cooked lunch of taken-in leftovers or a restaurant lunch. I knew he wanted a meal but I was "at work" and don't treat me like I'm "home".

It was an adjustment, but we've learned to muddle along together, LOL. Neither of us like being "joined at the hip".

Now I'm retired also. I spend a lot of time in my quilting studio, he spends a lot of time in the garden and on his computer.

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sleeperblues
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No, I don't love spending all of my time with my husband. I love, rather, when he is gone and I am alone. We have a lot in common, but I find that our interests are changing. He has his motorcycle in the summer and his snowmobile in the winter. I hate both of them. I work out every day with a friend, then spend time walking the dogs. I kind of worry that we are growing apart.
dotmom
15 years ago
Years ago, we lived just a mile away from where he worked, and he would come home at noon, and I would have to stop what I was doing, to make him lunch then try to get back into the mood to keep doing my work. I finally said, I married you for better or worse.....but not for lunch! LOL After that, we scheduled his coming home once or twice a week for lunch, depending on what I was doing.

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