a sad past few days

jeaninwa

13 years ago

There is no joy
There is no hope
There is no beauty
There are no songs

There is just the man sleeping who, because he hates himself, believes I hate him too.

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jeaninwa
Original Author
13 years ago
he just told me to leave.

So, do I leave? Or do I stay until he comes to himself? This came out of the blue.
emma
13 years ago
Do not leave before you talk to a lawyer. If you leave there is a good chance he will get the home and money if there is either. If there isn't, leave. I would not stay with anyone who did not want me AND I would not let him see how much he hurt me. Life's experience has taught me the best way to deal with this is just to say.............okay. It will leave him somewhat deflated/shocked.
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suzieque
13 years ago
Why should you leave. If he's unhappy and wants out of this relationship, shouldn't he leave?
sylviatexas1
13 years ago
don't know how it is where you live, but here a judge is inclined to 'give' the house & the children if there are any to the person who did not 'abandon the family home'.

Tell him adios & help him pack.
emma
13 years ago
sylvia, I was going to say that but the last time I did I was really jumped. LOL In my state they call it abandonment and the first one to file usually is given the home at least temporarily. My lawyer said another judge does not like to over ride the judgement of the first.
scarlett2001
13 years ago
Sometimes I wonder if this forum shouldn't change from the Marriage forum to the Divorce forum. Without even knowing the full story, many people just jump on with comments like "dump him/her" etc. It's easy - and dangerous - to give that kind of advice when you have nothing at stake yourself.

I think some posters on here are only relating to their own negative past experiences instead of reading and listening to the problems of those asking for help and educated opinions.
mkroopy
13 years ago
Scarlet I agree 100% and have said so many times...so often around here people are told to "dump him" because of things that sometimes could be overcome if both parties really worked on it. But there are a lot of scorned / bitter people around here that do tend to relate their bad experiences with everyone else.

It's so easy to dish out advice when you have no stake in the outcome.....
Karen10125
13 years ago
I think that Jeaninwa hasn't given enough information for anyone to give advice. Without knowing how long they've been married, or even if they're married, are there children, who does the house belong to, etc. it's hard to say what to do next. Could he be having an affair? Has he been distant and no intimacy? Only Jean can answer those questions.
scarlett2001
13 years ago
Looks like she is not talking.
colleenoz
13 years ago
She's been talking more over at the Kitchen Table.
scarlett2001
13 years ago
Well, sure. They serve coffee there.