Not at all, actually. I can tell when my children are lying to me - most of the time. But I can never ever tell if some one else is. DH is really good at seeing right through lies though.

Sometimes I am, sometimes not and likely often? probably not ... though in quite a few instances I doubt that I ever find out!

ole joyful

Yes, I am very good at it.

That's a tough question! I'm a very intuitive person and get strong feelings about a person. But as to whether they're actually lying or not? That's hard to know, since liars rarely admit what they've said is untrue ... so unless I have proof, I don't get confirmation that my feelings are accurate.

Yes, pretty good.

Yes, especially our son when he was gambling and doing dumb stuff, I can see right through him. DH is not aware of much going on,,lol

It depends on the person doing the lying. I always know when my DH is fibbing or not telling the whole story... but I have a friend that will insist she is telling the truth and when I finally believe her, she tells me she made it up! She can be very convincing.

I can if I am suspcious of a certain person. But most of the time I am more of a hook, line and sinker kinda gal.

Trin

I'm pretty good at it. Or the people are really bad liars.

I think I am getting better at it as I get older or I am getting more cynical. I use to take everything a person said at face value. Now I tend to question things, due to experience.
Clare

Ditto to what Clare says, but DH used to be able to zero in on liars immediately...yet another thing dementia took.

Suzi

I grew up having trust issues, so deep rooted in me is the instinct not to believe. I tend to question things.

I am usually a pretty good judge of character, but I do tend to believe people. It just never occurs to me that someone would lie.

I doubt extreme stories. I know some folks who exaggerate. Maybe it's a Texas Thing. LOL!

Depends on the person, doing the lying. Usually there's
body language, that indicates that the person is lying.

Here is a link that might be useful: how to detect lies

that was an interesting site frostedc...I think I'm pretty good...especially with my kids...now I'll be looking for the signs from frosted's site!

Not at all....can you say gulliable? Stacy

Yes I am. Most all liars have a "tell" when they lie. The pitch of their voice ,eye contact, mumbling when asked specifics etc.

I hate being directly lied to but I do find that liars are excellent sources of information. They like to feel important and are likely to say too much if you lead them the right way. In every lie there is a grain of truth. I like to pick that grain of truth out when it would benefit me.

Yes, I am pretty good at it. I am a very good listener and I watch people very closely, and like Clare said, the older I get, the more cynical I become.

I'm pretty good at it, because I have a lot of experience at it. People lie to me all the time. I can pick out most of them, but some liars are very, very good at it. I hate it when I fall for stuff that isn't true. Most people are honest, but there are a few hard core cons out there.

Yes- about 2 days after.....

I usually know when my kids are lying. I can mostly tell when other students are lying to me. If I'm not sure, I find that if I just stare at them long enough they'll give up whatever story they are trying to feed me. Sometimes I really suspect I'm being lied to by a student, but I decide it's a harmless one and let it go. There is one kid in a class I sub in regularly who told me the first time he went by a nickname. I bought it, called him by it next 3-4 times I was there, he answered to it and not one other student told me different, they all went along. Someone finally spilled the beans to me, and I confirmed it with another teacher. Oh well, it is harmless b/c he still answered to it, followed my directions, it never really mattered to me. Now he knows I know, but I still use the nickname just to annoy him.

But some people are just good liars, better liars than I am judge of character. Like someone else said, even when I suspect I'm being lied to, most often I don't find out for sure. I don't call them on it and I don't carry on like I'm a believer, I just move on with caution with that person.

Sometimes I watch a suspect interviewed on TV news swearing they were not involved, pleeding on behalf of their victim, and I just see something in their face I don't trust. Like the woman, Susan something, who pushed her car into a lake in Florida with her kids buckled inside, drowning them... then went on TV crying for the safe return of her kids stolen when her car was carjacked. I knew in my heart she was lying. Scott Peterson, knew in my heart he was lying the first time I saw him speak.

frostedc, most of those "tips' on how to spot liars are actually the opposite of what is taught in police school.

For instance the example they give that; [quote]A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, "Did you eat the last cookie?" The liar answers, "No, I did not eat the last cookie." [/quote] That is is WRONG. What is taught is that a liar will answer a different question that was not asked. So a liar may respond with something like "I'm on a diet" or "Bill in accounting loves chocolate chip cookies." Or "When I arrived this morning the cover was off the jar." or "I'm allergic to nuts."

A liar will not directly answer the exact question but will rework it to answer another question that was not asked but leads a gullible person to draw a conclusion that is not the correct one.

dilly, I snorted reading that! Yep, that's pretty much what my kids do that gives them away! LOL! In fact, it could be with the same questions!

One of our classics: DS#1 thought DS#4 had eaten more than his share of chocolate candies (evidence was on his face LOL). When DS#1 asked #4 "How many did you eat?" #4 answered, "One..." several second pause, "at a time." #4 was about 4 y/o when that happened.

So often the conversation starts with me asking a question, them answering a *different* question, and me responding, "That is not what I asked." It's part of the routine now for me to ask "Did you brush your teeth?" They say yes. And I have to ask "Today?" We all know how it will end, but they play the game anyway.

That's just funny to me. I'm not going to share that psychology info with them... they might use it against me.

Oh, I love that 4-year-old's answer to how many cookies he'd eaten. "One...at a time."

It bothers me when a person only speaks in a passive voice. It's never, "I did this," it's: "It happened," or "The circumstances were such that..." You hear this when someone (often a politician) is avoiding taking real responsibility for his own actions. He makes a gesture of apology, admits there was a wrong, but it isn't honest.