ok, pills knock her out cold!! at least she is sleeping, but we hate to see her drugged up too.. it is a lose-lose situation. :( Daddy and I are going to try just half dose, see what that does for a day or 2, see how she handles that. But it sure got quiet here all of a sudden. pkramer~ We haven't really looked into it, not for this anyway. I am the main caregiver for her. So it isn't all on daddy. Just very emotional is all. And the eye drops?? shoot- now it 3x a day for 2 different drops and somethng like vasiline to put in her eyes~~ BOTH EYES NOW!! She is going again tomorrow and get another pressure check. Watch it be normal range and back to one drop a day... this is so not fair to her!! Idiot doctors anyway, they don't have a clue of what to do for her eyes. Makes me so pissed I could spit!! But I really can't put all the blame on them for this, daddy waited too long to have anything done for them. At the time it started, she was having operations on her elbow that she shattered, 5 operations in all. So for my mom, these past 2 yrs have not been too good to her, and it looks like it won't get any better. It just isn't fair. If she was a dog/cat, she would be put down, die peacefully and with some diginity. But people? NOOOOO! they have to suffer a long painful life till they die, no diginity, no humanity, no sence, IMO of course. It just isn't fair. Yes, more ranting. The drops situation is what blew me up today. Was down to only one drop per day. Getting her to take them is hard enough w/out doing it 3x. I wish I knew the answer as to my question~~ why? Marjie

Barker_Tx, we are in Austin, Tx and if you have any suggestions, please email me at bevangel_72(at)yahoo.com. A big problem we're having is the cost of all the facilities in Austin. MIL gets about $1100/mo social security and about $900/mo investment income. All of her money is invested in CDs however and none of those mature until next March, so even though know she needs to start spending down the principal, we'd very much like to wait to cash one out to avoid the early withdrawal penalties. In the interim, DH and I are supplementing her living expenses. But, both our jobs are currently "shaky" so we really can't afford to supplement more than about $1000/mo and even that is a MAJOR stretch. If either of us actually loses our jobs, we're going to eat through our own financial cushion very very fast! In Amarillo, MIL's social security and investment income came really close to covering her expenses and she would cash out a CD about once a year to put enough in the bank to cover the rest of her expenses for the year. The only thing we were supplementing was her medication management at about $400/mo. Moving her down here and paying the $3000 non-refundable move-in fee to the Meridian ate thru pretty much all the extra cash she had on hand. So, until next March, we're going to have to supplement every penny above about $2000/mo that it costs her to live. As for the Meridian... I have talked to the administrators until I am blue in the face. They just keep shifting their stories to cover their a**es. First they claimed that they intended for another resident who attends almost all the activities in the main area to go and get MIL and befriend her... but that that resident moved out shortly after MIL moved in. When I pointed out that 1) they never TOLD us the volunteer resident had moved out and 2) THEY were the ones who made the promise and, if they couldn't find a volunteer to fulfill the promise, they should have assigned a staff member to do it, they changed their story. They NOW claim that the only activities they EVER promised to take MIL to were the ones in the Platinum Plus wing and that, if we understood anything else, it was just a misunderstanding on our part! They won't respond to the fact that we talked repeatedly about how much MIL enjoyed playing the dominoes game called Forty-two, which was shown on the MAIN schedule 3x per week and is NEVER shown on the Platinum Plus schedule, and which they very specifically stated they would make sure she got to play. They also ignore the fact that we talked very specifically about my concern that she would get lost trying to get all the way down to the main activity room by herself and discussed the need for her to have a scooter because it was too far for her to walk. The area where they hold their once daily platinum plus activity is right around the corner from MIL's apartment. She can find her own way there quite easily and doesn't need a scooter to go that far. But, "we only said we'd get her to the Platinum Plus activities" is now their story and they are sticking to it. As for the non-events on the health center calendar: According to the administrator, the "current events" activity on the health center calendar would have happened except that the volunteer that leads current events on the weekend was unexpectedly called out of town. The "worship services" on that calendar was a reference to the worship services happening in the Platinum Plus area (as if any one living in the Health Center could POSSIBLY have made it up there since it is at least a 5 minute walk by a healthy person!) The "social hour" was a reference to the fact that, about 3PM the nurse came around and gave each resident a cookie and some cranberry juice! As for the non-events on the Main Calendar: their story now is that "our independent residents lead most of the events that are scheduled and, if they decide not to hold them, we ask them to let us know so we can revise the calendar but, if they don't, that is nothing the Meridian can do." And, as for scheduled afternoon game time that didn't happen in the Platinum Plus wing: "our staff member was there at the scheduled time to lead the activity but none of the residents showed up, so after a few minutes, she left and went to take care of other duties." As I said, they're covering their a**es! As the situation now stands, MIL is back in her apartment and we have been told that they will "remind her of all activities, including those in the main building, when they go in to give her medications." They will also tell her where the activity is happening (as if she can possibly find it on her own) and that, IF a staff member "has time", one will walk her down to occasional activities in the main building. I would bet a million bucks that no staff member will ever have time!!!! Bottom line, she will be left to vegetate in her room until we can move her out. The only reason we even looked in Temple was that Austin seemed so expensive and, as one went further out from Austin the prices seemed to drop. We figured we could afford the time and gas to drive 50 miles to/from Temple once or twice a week more easily than the prices of similar places in Austin. BAD PLAN! Obviously the staff at these places need to know that family members can and will drop in at any time of the day or night! Otherwise some of them are going to take advantage of the fact that they can pretty much lie to you with impunity. I don't want to file a lawsuit or bring other legal action against the Meridian as long as MIL is still basically in their control. No telling how they might take it out on her! Further, a legal action would probably be unavailing because all the promises were made verbally --- nothing in the written contract about them. Once MIL is out though, I intend to sic the state on them for running an unlicensed assisted living facility and also to post bad reviews at every location I can find. Meantime, we're still looking for a good situation for MIL in or near Austin that is somewhere within reach of our budget.

The old timer had this same problem? What cycle are you using? Timed drying for X number of minutes? Or an automatic cycle for a target dryness level? If automatic, does your machine use temperature sensing of the exhaust air, or true moisture sensing (sensor bars inside the drum)? The problem may not be the timer ....

Hi Cynic, I got your email...and thank you so much for remembering me. For starters, I don't know what size tank I have...either 200 or 250 gal....and at the end of Feb was when I put in 100 gal....so it has been a little over 3 months now. I just checked the gauge, and it reads about 48%. I think I used the little propane heater maybe half a dozen times after the fill, and usually only for a couple of hours. I don't expect to be doing much heating with gas in the years to come...maybe just the little one, when I have been gone a good while, and turned the electric down low...or even off. It sure helps having a basement, and not have the concern of freezing pipes like I used to have in my mobile home b4 building. The house can be left without heat for days at a time, with some really cold temps outside, and the only damage I've ever had was some (stupid) house plants...which I didn't particularly care for anyway. Guess I will check the price now, and go ahead and have them fill it up...as it won't get any cheaper in the years to come. Thanks for thinking of me. Sue