Health Anxiety!! How can I get past this???
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Comments (9)((((Kat)))) i 2was wondering how your dad was doing. as you know my DH has MM also, but he seems to be doing pretty good right now (knock on wood). He also was on the Thalidamid, I can't remember how long he was on it though, quite awhile though we think. yes that and the pain meds do cause constipation. Right now DH isn't taking any thing for the MM, after he got off the Thalidamid, he was on Velcade...has your dad had that yet?? he was on it for a while, then dr took him off it, his feet and legs were causing him so much trouble (neuropathy), but his counts have remained stable quite awhile, thank God, we really believe that God has touched him! DH takes Miralax for his bowels, seems to work good for him. the first time he tried it, he didn't think it worked, so stopped it. then months later we tried again, and he's been taking it ever since, he only takes about a Tablespoon every night. I put it in a glass and add a little water to dissolve it, then fill the cup with diet twist-up from Walmart, but you can use other stuff, pop, or juice, etc. doesn't have much taste to it. as a matter of fact, our 10 yr old DD has to take it and she takes a LOT more than DH does! sometimes it takes a couple of days for it to start working though, but you can increase or decrease the Miralax, you might want to ask his dr about it, even his reg. dr could prescribe it! oh another thing when DH was losing so much weight and didn't want to eat, I would make him milkshakes and put in Carnation instant breakfast, for more protein, or if your dad likes Ensure or Boost, you could mix it with the milkshake. DH never liked either one of those, and could tell it was in the milkshakes! but didn't mind the Carnation instant breakfast in it though. as for the other problem, don't really have an answer for you! i know it would be hard to do, i know when my mom was sick with pancreatic cancer, I had to help wash her, an was uncomfortable too!, i let her wash her private parts! I help DH take his shower, but thats different than it being your dad! Maybe someone else has some ideas for you!! good luck to all of you!!! DianePA...See MoreCan you talk to me about anxiety/panic attacks?
Comments (26)Busy, busy days so I couldn't get here for an update - better late than never, right? What a difference 24 hours can make. For starters, Ross seems to have gotten a much better night's sleep (no racing thoughts) and that alone will start a day with a better perspective. He texted me first thing Friday to say that he's put a lot of things together in his mind and has a better understanding of why he 'crashed' and feels more in control, at least in the context of the program he's in. Two days ago he wanted to bail but last night he felt empowered to stay, glean what he can, and let go of feeling inadequate for the program - most of the students are feeling the same way. We've spoken a few times since but between his 18 hour days and the time difference, we don't have a chance to get into long conversations. He sounds so much better, though and I can breathe a bit again. He's coming home the day after the program ends, will have a week here with us and his cousins/my nieces and their kids. It's an interesting dynamic because there's a 1/2 step generation difference - my nieces are like my little sisters and his older sisters at the same time. I've been speaking with my middle niece who has dealt with anxiety issues and she will be great council for Ross. He has really isolated himself at college by choosing the location he did and much as he loves the place, the mountains, the snowboarding, it seems he is feeling the distance as he comes to the end of his college years. And I really think the state of the world, economy and job market are weighing heavily on him. It's damn scary to think about having to launch yourself at this time - I feel so sorry for all of our kids! But coming home will let him see what a large and varied support system he has - just wish his brother could be here also. We'll be doing some research to find a good medical fit for him at school. He has a horrendous fall schedule between classes, labs and research so I know going in he's going resist carving out time for regular sessions if that's needed. With his background, he's been 'therapied' up one side and down the other but maybe he's ready to approach it from the standpoint of an adult in control of the choices as opposed to a child being directed by mom and dad. I appreciate every perspective given here and don't want anyone to think their words were misplaced. In my mind, any information is good information and it's always in my power to sift through and use what fits. Or not. I think the internet can be a great place for advice but it's only a first step, nothing more - no expectations for instant cures. Chickadee I don't know the program you're referring to but there are no guarantees with this one so doesn't seem to be the same. Again, way too long! Thank you all for your comments and support. When I know more, you'll know more....See MoreI Can Feel The Anxiety Building Already
Comments (4)Oh thank you, JMT! I thought about your advice all weekend while X and GF made jerks out of themselves, yet again. So much so that DS is a basket-case about having to go there again this weekend. He had forgotten this coming weekend was actually the 1st weekend of October, therefore, he has to go two weekends in a row. Also, it's a 3-day weekend, and he is afraid it will turn out like the last 3-day weekend. This past weekend was better, but DS was still super-happy to be home. He even told me at his sports event on Sunday that he couldn't wait to see me that night. You both are probably right...it's probably nothing I did, but I am a convenient target. In X's mind (and GF's, too) I ruined his life when I left him and stole his son. He is, and has always been, in complete denial that anything he did to me was his fault. Like a textbook abuser, he would say "I'm sorry, but you shouldn't have pushed me." True, I shouldn't have pushed him, but the line was/is always moving and I can't have my son living like that! Here's the latest...DS told me Sunday afternoon at his sports event that he got bit by a dog on Saturday, but that it wasn't bad and he had it wrapped up so it wouldn't get dirty. When he got home on Sunday night I helped him re-dress it and...it is worse than I expected. Probably needed stitches or glue on the inside. Too late by the time I found out about it. What makes it worse is that it's on his ankle on the side of the achiles tendon, which, because of the constant movement of this area, makes it keep opening up. Monday, it was swollen, red and throbbing so much so that I had to talk to his coach to see if he could sit out of conditioning. DS was nearly in tears! It is much, much, much better now, but it will probably be a scar, which is fine. Here are the things that really bother me: 1) No one told me about it until a day after it happened. 3) Because no one told me, I was never even given the option of paying for the doctor's visit if I thought it was warranted. 2) I don't even know if the people who own the dog offered to pay for it, because, if so, they SHOULD be paying for whatever damage was caused by THEIR dog. I doubt it though because they're X's "friends" aka partners in bashing me (according to DS). 3) Because DS didn't go to the doctor he didn't get a tetanus shot. Not that he has tetanus, but it's always a possibility with those things. 4) It could've gotten infected, and because it probably needed to be glued insie the wound, the possibility is still there. 5) I have no idea if that dog was vaccinated or not. OH, and then, DS told me that GF told him that if he wanted clean clothes that he had to wash them because SHE wanted to make sure he was ready for college. UMMM, WTF?? I really don't mind if DS does his laundry, as he does it at home, but what business is it of hers if he knows how to do laundry in college? I seriously doubt that if he needs laundry done when he's in college that he'll bring it to HER. Also, they only get him 4 days per month, and they're gonna be like that? HE IS 1 PERSON!!! It's not like 3 kids are there or that they have other people in their home to take care of!!! He is 1 kid who wears 2 outfits!! Big whoopty freakin dooooooooo! Why pick at him? UGH! I feel like they are just picking at him for no reason!...See MoreTips on how to get good Home Health Care
Comments (8)I did live-in health care back when I was in my 20's, I was a CNA and did not only do patient care but also light housekeeping, cooking and shopping. I worked for a private agency then.. the clients all paid out-of-pocket. Fast forward to a few years ago, my CNA liscense had expired but I took a job as a home health aide. Very, very different. I could not do any patient care.. only cleaning, laundry and shopping. During my training I was shocked to see that most of the aides did very little and spent most of the time visiting with the clients. One of my first days alone I cleaned a lady's refrigerator for over 2 hours. Things had been spilled in there I'm guessing several months earlier and although HHA's had been there 2 times every week.. no one cleaned it up. I also had clients that told me to go ahead and leave when I was done although my time wasn't up (so there is a lot of that going on). I only kept that job a couple weeks... it wasn't at all what I had expected. Good info Lisa!!...See Moreagnespuffin
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