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You May Be Killing Yourself!!!!!

19 years ago

Calm down. That's what my husband said. I almost made myself chronically ill, from anxiety. After almost two years of spazzing out about the pain and burning all through my body, I listened to him, and now I'm doing really great. Calm down, - you may save your life. :0 Arum

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agnespuffin
19 years ago
That's Great!!!! We'll never know just how much the mind affects our general health. Keep up the good thoughts.
Aggie
catherinet
19 years ago
I'm happy for you arum,
Any suggestions as to how to accomplish that? Is it just "mind over matter"? Is it learning to focus away from ourselves? Is it eating a certain way, or believing in something? I can't seem to get there from here!
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Meghane
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ARUM
Original Author
19 years ago
Thanks Anggie. :) Catherinet, have you ever heard of Bio-feedback? Relaxation Techniques? It really works. You have to practice every day. Try taking in a very deep breath starting from your abdomen, then when it can't breath in any more, let the breath out very slowly, while concentrating on what you are doing. Do it about five times in a row, you will feel yourself relaxing. Do it at night, in the morning, and during the day when you feel tense. Look up relaxing techniques on a search engine, and then print out what you read and practice. I promise. You will be a new person. Arum
zoewolf
19 years ago
I AM killing myself, or at least trying. Can't seem to kick the nicotine habit. I am also peri-menopausal, have anxiety attacks, and am a cronic insomnic.

I've come to terms with my medical history and since my kids are now nearly adults, I am truly ready to "meet my maker". No excuses, no regrets, no remorse. Just hope that it happens quickly and painlessly (as does everyone else).
ARUM
Original Author
19 years ago
zoewolf, I really do know how you feel,-except for the cigs. Sometimes we may say we hate life, but we may just hate life the way we are living it,and feeling at the time. If you so some relaxation therapy, I bet you will feel differently. Also, go to a nursing home, observe closely, and you may feel like the man who cried because he had no shoes, until he met the man who had no feet. I mean, if we can walk, see, taste, hear, we are the lucky ones. Let's work with what we have. Arum
zoewolf
19 years ago
Been there and done that. Don't get me wrong, I am incredibly fortunate. I have it made. Two beautiful, exceptionally intelligent, career driven, daughters. Husband who makes lots and lots of money, so I have no need to work. We have a total of 5 automobiles -- two of which are Mercedes. A hugh, expensive home. Most people would kill to be in this position.

I am unfortunatley trying to hassen the death process myself to get out of it. Life sucks, and then you die. Period end.

Too many friends and way too many close family members are dead. I just miss them terribly sometimes.
ARUM
Original Author
19 years ago
I can help you. Email me. :)

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