life regrets

17 years ago

Hey guys,

In the course of my life so far IÂve come across plenty of people with regrets theyÂve had in their own lives. And seeing how life is so incredibly shortÂ I just kind of wanted to see what everyone elseÂs regrets are.

Career-life objectives?

Relationships?

Family?

It would be pretty cool to learn from each otherÂs *mistakes* or to see what we would do differently at your age. So I guess when you postÂ itÂll be cool if you posted your age along with your posting.

I know a lot of people out there also try to live without regrets... and even if you do, it'd be helpful to see something you'd change.. rather than regret.

HereÂs mine:

I regret not spending enough time to keep in touch and to foster relationships with the significant people in my life. I feel like IÂve been too distracted with the other aspects of life (work and school primarily) that I just kinda lost touch with people I would rather not have lost touch withÂ I know its not too late.. but I feel like some relationships have deteriorated too much for full repair..

Age:22

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stargazzer
17 years ago
I regret getting married and having a family. I think I would have preferred a career instead of a family. But then you always want what you don't have. I don't spend much time thinking of things I can't change. I am to busy enjoying the time I have left.
kms4me
17 years ago
I love my son, and his child, beyond belief. I would never wish either of their existences away. But I do wish I had not been an unwed teenage mom.
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cheerful1_gw
13 years ago
I have many regrets, the biggest one being many years ago I told a lie to my husband before we were married. I was only a teenager, and judged that he would be upset about it if I told him. He found out and was very angry. We almost broke up; his father told him to give me another chance. We eventually did get married, but he never hesitates to bring it up when we have an argument. He still calls me a liar and judgmental.

Second regret, if I were more mature then, I never would have gotten married.
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No children/grandchildren in my life (another regret?)

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