OH, I feel so bad for you! I have just one new grandaughter, and it would break my heart if I couldn't see her. Isn't there some sort of Grandparents rights that can be enforced by law that grants you visitaion rights?
Have you looked into your legal rights as their grandparent?

That is very heart-breaking. I agree that you should check into your legal rights. I really don't know if there is anything else you can do because it doesn't sound like your ex DIL is going to budge. I'm very sorry! I hope it works out for you and you get to see your precious grandchildren.

That is heartbreaking. I made sure my kids saw the grandparents on my ex's side. It sounds like she doesn't care about hurting her own children. To quote a bumper sticker: Mean People Suck!

Why didn't your son go to court and fight because his ex was preventing him from seeing them? He should have done something other than just give up custody totally! That's like saying he really didn't care and just left the kids. It will leave a mark that may never ever be able to be fixed on these children. The mother had no right to keep her kids from his father and if he still was able to see them, then so would you.

I had an ex-SIL who was keeping her kids from their father. She claimed that his new wife harrassed her and sent nasty letters and things but there was really no proof that the letters came from the other couple. She also made sure not to EVER pick up the phone if the Caller ID said out of area and he lived out of the state. She ended up leaving my BIL and finding a new guy but at the time she was talking about abandonment and having my BIL adopt the kids. She told the kids their father didn't care and yet stopped any form of communication between them. You have no idea what this woman may be saying or doing with these kids. Look into Grandparents rights and maybe also you need to talk to your son about getting back in his kids life. You don't stop seeing them because the mother makes your life hard. My step father has been bad mouthed and blackmailed and everything else by his ex-wife but it hasn't stopped him from trying to be with his children. It's going to probably be a long, bumpy ride but you have to decide if the children are worth it and do it.

Oh, this is all soooo sad and unneccessary. I agree you should look into your rights. Our pastor and wife have sued for and won visitation rights for their son's first born. Things have worked out and they have a good relationship, now.

Also, I would keep a journal of your time apart. Try not to make it to depressing and don't down grade their mother. Because you put down a parent, you put down the child. But just write things like that you are thinking of them and wondering what they are doing. Maybe mention age appropriate things they might be involved in. Things you would like to do with them if you could.

That way when they reach age of independence and look you up, they will know that they were loved.

I feel sooo sorry for your ex-DIL. She is going to be the loser in this big time. To bad she can't see it now and change.

Good luck.

Gramma Connie

Mean people do suck! Had the same problem with my son's exgirlfriend. Finally did go to court and won visitation every other Saturday. She's still nasty but we won't back down.

I am hurting for you. Only someone who has been there knows the feeling of having a heart ache like this. I didn't see my granddaughts for 7 months and I went into a depression. I love them so much. I see them know but only about once every two weeks. The problems was the son in law. He tried to approach my other daughtedr. She told my huysband and I. The son in law was afraid we would tell my daughter so he lied and said it was her. My daughter and I were very close before this. We both cry because we will never have the same relationship because of him. He sees my daughter cry and my granddaughters want to see me and he still lies. My husband and I said enough is enough. Let's let it go for the kids sake. We can never solve this. He is the wrong one and says he will never see us. That means we have no holidays together. We used to spend everyone together. My husband is Santa. How can a father see his children and wife hurt by his lies and not put an end to this. His family know is the best and sees them all the time. I think it's sad that family can't get along with everyone. He is sick. Thanks for listening.

my daughter took away my 4 grandkids two states away, i am devasted!!!!!! 2yr., 6yr., 7yr., & 11yr., they are everything to me. it is so heartbreaking, my prayers to all others who posted here also, why are people so selfish and hurtful?

My heart breaks for all you grandparents going through this. If only the moms would wake up and realize the ones they are hurting are their own children!

There are no custody rights for grand parents. The mom and dad usually fight for custody in court and if you throw in grandparents it would be impossible.