Problem with next door neighbor: The Bully & the Fence
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Comments (3)do not limit yourself to planting for privacy ... wayyyyy out at the property line ... think about plants in the middle of the yard ... and closer to the house.. or around the patio .. you know.. the hidden garden/patio ... plant things in those areas.. so that if the cypress have to go .. somewhere down the line... you have replacements ... and.. i wouldnt worry about them ... until the neighbor says something... odds are heavy .. they will enjoy the privacy.. as much as you ... and wont mind a little infringement on the fence ... personally .. i would never use shears/clippers ... i would prune them slower.. by hand .. being very selective in what i took out ... good luck ken...See MoreProblem with neighbor's fence
Comments (7)Hi - thanks for the replies. To larke: sorry, I meant that the fence stops about 15 feet down the property line as it extends from the front to the back yard, with roughly 40 feet unfinished. As far as whether it is on our property: we are acquainted with the couple who owned the house in the 90s (didn't realize until after we bought it), and the neighbor "made" them move their shed 3" further onto their property so he could start this fence. They tell us he claimed the shed was "right on" the property line, and if that's true this fence might be on the line. If it were actually on the line, it would be in violation of our city's ordinances, but we haven't had a survey, so we don't know. In any case, it would be "close enough", and the issue is really just that the fence is unfinished. To dilettante - You are right, I am a little impatient. I'm also just being realistic, since it appears the fence hasn't been a priority for them for at least 9 years, maybe more. Our city ordinances don't reference anything about unfinished fences, especially since this one wouldn't require a permit. It doesn't violate codes in height or appearance, and in fact it would be a nice fence if it were finished. We are definitely going to build a fence next spring/summer if theirs isn't finished by then. Unfortunately as it is now, all of the piles of wood and other junk in their yard are highly visible. We also want some privacy from these neighbors. Without going into too many details, it seems every time we go into the back yard to do something, the husband walks over with a list of subjects that he wants to discuss with us, and these sometimes range from slightly offensive to downright rude. I am looking more I guess for the right etiquette in this situation rather than the rule of law. I already understand that I can't force them to do anything. I just haven't read many other examples like this one elsewhere and wanted to make sure when we do end up building our fence that we aren't breaking some informal etiquette....See MoreFence next to neighbors tree
Comments (24)The city just removed a huge tree from in front of my home, leaving a plot & said, even though it's a city street, it's my responsibility as the homeowner to repair that part of the sidewalk, out of pocket(will not get reimbursed), then I am worried that the semi-attached neighbor, who has moved in 5 yrs ago, continues to do construction & destruction of my health & home from heavy construction(no permits) & toxic fumes 24/7, with no relief when the police, fire, emts, gas/electric companies, plumbers, licensed contractors are hired to make repairs & I'm under drs' care for irreversible lung & nerve damage, high blood pressure & other ailments due to the stress, that they show no courtesy, common decency, continue to do construction all week & weekends all hours, that they had a back fence tied to my chain linked, aluminum slate fence & hired contractors to replace it with a vinyl fence, without informing me, until the contractors were sawing their old fence without regard for my fence until I spoke to them. Now I noticed these neighbors may be putting in a tree, bushes or fence in their front yard, blocking my air rights, or they're going to put a fence on my property, as my small brick fence around the front garden was moved in about 4 -5 inches from the corner of my brick porch as to avoid the attached neighbors from saying it was hanging over their property, they were measuring yesterday. What are my rights? What can I do?...See MoreOne next door neighbor loves my cottage garden one hates it.
Comments (25)I had the same problem as I was converting most of my yard into one big garden. I live on .4 acres. I am making almost all of my front yard a cottage garden. The problem is in the first couple of years it can really look scant and irregular until all the flowers reseed, spread, and fill the area. Now that my sweet williams (dianthus) and coreopsis are spreading rapidly it looks more solid and currently full of beautiful color. Don't give up. I would suggest planting perennials that readily reseed and easily divide. These will quickly fill in to give a more full look. Also, plant randomly together so that as one plant is fading in color another is coming into flower. I planted 1,000 stargazer lilies to pick up the slack when others may be going out of flower. In the fall I have goldenrod and asters to makeup the color different along with some spider lilies. Don't be afraid to mix up your plants. The point of a cottage garden is to have that wild random look like God has done in nature. You don't see God planting trees, shrubs, and flowers in rows in the wild areas of our country. We find beauty in randomness because it is harder for us to put it together in groups. This is why planting in groups of odd numbers is more attractive. Couple that with mixing about 3 species together and you have a great combination....See Morekomokasa
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