"going through the motions of starting up." That's what I think too, and that's why I asked if she can see the desk top for the brief moment that the monitor stays on after reboot. Windows ME, I think it's an old CRT Monitor power problem. Someone came to the other forum yesterday that I work on an said they could not connect to the Internet and had pops up right before. I posted the instructions for "downloading" Malwarebytes :)LOL!

It's a little complex because two or more controlling software's might be trying to control the machine's behavior. First educate yourself about what brings it out of sleep mode. I know that the modem can (by a phone call coming in the comptuer can be woken up so as to take the call be it a fax or internet) Since dialup is dead to most people know that the network card can work the same way. So turn off the 'wake upon lan" or similar setting that means this: When the LAN (network card) gets a request to transfer data it wakes up the computer. You can shut this off but where? It can be set in many places. The bios might have a setting. Windows might have a setting for it. And any software for the network card itself could have a setting. (This is often part of the Windows setting section) Go poke and search these bits first. Without knowing the network and modem cards are not going to wake up the computer you are wasting time. Verify they aren't at fault first. I'll check back in a few days. Andre

Think about the situation as you know it. It sounds like he is 'ok' with the crib in general. He plays happily in it? The things he has needed for sleep though have been the fan noise and his car seat. Car seats have their own scent, feel, and look as well as forcing a more upright or seated position. Also, his usual pattern now is probably to associate the car seat (and all its related variables) with being able to relax and fall asleep. The crib is a nice play area, but not conducive or associated with a good sleep for him (at this time). Do other things comfort him? When he does cry in the crib, can he be comforted by words, singing, music, touch... anything? The idea is not to let him cry himself to exhaustion, but that some discomfort is tolerable and if he can be acclimatized to the crib for sleep this can occur bit by bit over time. One thing that can help is to have play time anywhere else but not in the crib. The crib can be effectively re-defined as a place for sleep or at least quiet time. Experiment, and use your best judgement so that you can stay within (or stretch in a healthy way) your comfort zone and teach or train a 4 month old how to be able to sleep in his crib. There isn't one way to do this kind of thing because humans are mostly alike but are all individuals too. You and your baby can kind of get a feel for each other, and how to change patterns so that they are more productive. give it some time, because it's probably a _huge_ change for him and relaxing and sleeping in a whole new position and place (especially if he's used to other things happening in that place) is probably not going to happen all at once (the all at once approach would involve forcing the issue and letting him cry himself to utter exhaustion) P.S. If touch works for comforting him at all, infant massage techniques might be helpful for nighttime or crib-sleeping relaxation.

Just adding to what everyone has said about stopping the bottles and nursing more. If she does decide to try that, she should definitely talk to a lactation consultant first. If she goes back to breastfeeding, I'm pretty sure she'd need to gradually wean off of the bottle while building her milk supply back up. Otherwise she'll have a very angry, hungry baby on her hands! :) When Sophie was 1 month old, I had to go into the hospital for a week for surgery. During that week, Claude bottlefed her and my milk supply dropped to almost nothing, even though I was trying to pump to keep my supply up. When I got home and was off the medications I had been on, I started to nurse her often. She was still on bottle at first, but I gradually took her off, an ounce or two at a time, until she was being completely breastfed again. It's not easy, but it's doable. She was a big, hungry baby too - 9 lbs., 5 oz. when she was born.