Friend has two months to live- what do you say to them?
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Comments (23)If the beneficial insects that feed on thrips and aphids are attracted to certain plants, it makes sense (to me, anyway) to plant those beneficial- insect attractors as some of the companion plants to roses. I tried doing this in Alabama, and it either worked pretty well or I didn't have much of a thrips problem anyway. I don't ever use pesticides in the garden either, as I am aware that there is an entire universe going on at the insect level that I don't see or much understand. I also do believe what Hamp and buford say, that there are some roses that are thrip magnets. It would be fun to make a list of those sometime. So, here are a couple of links that list plants that attract hoverflies, tachnid wasps, ladybugs, lacewings, etc. in case anyone is interested. http://www.dianeseeds.com/flowers/beneficial-insects.html Here is a link that might be useful: plants that attract beneficial insects...See MoreBathrooms update - 6 months after living with them
Comments (7)The countertop/backsplash in the master bath is made of Travertine. It is a slab, which is why it looks so thick. My contractor picked the one that matches my tiles. The bathroom is around 10 ft x 9 ft. The vanity is 2.5 ft x 7 ft long. The shower is 3 ft x 7 ft. The toilet area is 3 ft x 3 ft adjacent to the closet, and linen closet is 3 ft x 2.5 ft. The shower is in line with the vanity on the opposite side, and toilet is in line with the linen closet. The distance between shower and vanity is a little over 3 ft.So 10 ft long by 9 ft wide. Hope that helps! Yes, the long wall of the shower is on an inside wall. The entire master bathroom was moved to a different location, so we had to build walls to add pipes to accommodate a wall toilet. So we had enough space to build deep niches....See MoreFriend Having Mortgage Problems - What would you do?
Comments (26)My guess as to "where the money went" is college and (possibly) new house expenses. If they have two recent college graduates and one who's still in college, that's three tuitions. Just out of curiosity, I took a look at current expenses at my alma mater-- a state school. Expenses for in-state students were estimated at roughly $19,000 per year. For out-of-state students, the estimate is about $33,000. And an Ivy, like Harvard, has as estimate of about $50,000. Your friends may not need to have some other problem going on if they're trying to cover those kinds of expenses for three children. Especially if they had their children early-- if they started having children in their early 20s when they themselves still had college debt, they probably didn't have enough earnings to start saving for the kids' colleges when the children were young. And that may also have set a pattern of them knowing that they could get along without savings. So when they bought a new house when things were good for them, they may have felt okay about buying new furniture or new electronics or whatever, and leaving themselves without much of a safety net. If I were them, I think I would definitely shift the burden of college loans to their children now. It's loving of them to want their children to start their careers debt-free... but it sounds like the parents are starting to go under themselves. Would the older two kids rather pay their own college loans, or would they rather their parents and younger brother/sister have to move in with them? Beyond that (as everyone else has said), they need to really analyze their financial situation, figure out what they can cut, and determine if they could afford the house if they were to change their spending. And if they can't, their choices are to sell it or be foreclosed upon. It's a hard situation. As their friend, I would maybe think about ways to shift our socializing time to less expensive venues. It may not make much of a difference, but if I know that my friends were having problems I would feel more comfortable with visiting one another's houses or going on hikes or doing other activities where spending wasn't part of the environment. They don't need to know that you're doing it. It's just that that way, you'll at least know that you're not contributing to the situation....See Moreasolo
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