sounds as if things might work out a little better for you. Now, while you are remodeling that bath, if you haven't already thought about it.... put in towel bars, grab bars etc. that look nice but are well anchored into the wall studs. Might cost a little more to get the decorative ones, but they are sooo helpful. You will even get some use out of them for yourself one day! (but not soon, I hope)

Grab Bars are already on the list, in fact I think I will put two in the tub area, one at the back that can be used when getting in the tub and then another at an angle on the main wall to aide in standing for my dad and something for me to hold on to when in there...........
Also am insisting the grab bars be ADA compliant as many of them for sale are not.

We have a "towel bar" on the wall next to the toilet too. It's well anchored and helps a lot. It may not be ADA compliant, but it's heavier and studier than the usual towel bar, and anchored into the studs. I don't worry about it.

Great tip, thanks! I do have one of those chairs that goes over the toilet in the master bath for dad. He does not use the other bath except for showering. The master bath shower is small, and very dark as there is no light, not good for a legally blind person. However we are making do with it until the other gets fixed. Dad feels so bad this happened but I told him not to worry, we will fix it up and then one bathroom in this 44 yr. old home will be updated!

Stand in the shower or tub as if you were using it. Put your hand against the wall as if to steady yourself. That's where you need a bar. We have gotten so used to having one there in ours, that we feel very awkward taking a shower in a hotel bath. It's just great for unsteady feet.

When one of us can no longer use the shower and have to take tub baths, we'll get one of those bath chair things. But for now, it works well.

Hope you get to your gardening soon. I know it means a lot to you.

So glad you are getting a day to yourself. Sounds like it will do both of you some good. Glad your dad likes it there. Only one nursing home is always a good thing, glad that worked out for you so your brother and mom are in the same one.

It sounds like you've got some better options now. Having your mom & brother in the same home is going to relieve you of an extra burden. The day care is great too. Perhaps your dad will like it enough for two days a week. Best of luck. You're doing a great job.