Prairiemoon2, I checked my records and my Sweet Kate was planted in the spring of 2003. To my eye it appears to be slightly smaller than some of the other green Trads that I have in the back of my yard (no record of the variety of these). It definitely has finer foliage, more grass-like, and has not spread at all for me. My green ones reseed around a bit, but not heavily. I also have 3 Bowles Golden sedges (Carex) that are also clumpers. These are quite a bit taller, maybe 2 1/2 feet or so and are planted in my "wet" garden. I have never had Bowles Golden reseed at all since they were planted in 2002. I have never divided them either, so their growth while fast in the beginning is very moderate later on. These were grown from plugs in basically unimproved heavy wet clay soil. Both these are lovely gold/chartreuse plants, that don't fade out much (the Bowles a little more than SK) at all in a zone 5 mostly sunny garden. As the thicketing shrubs in the "wet" garden have grown up & thrown more shade the Bowles has become more chartreuse in summer for me than gold.

Oh, thats crappy. I go out all the time in the middle of the night. I was sleeping at 2am but at 2:30 I was in the yard in my birthday suit trying to get the puppy to do her business and quit playing tug of war with the mandevilla, lol. I think I will have to start using PJ's now. I froze my butt off, lol. I go out and take pics of the brugs and frogs at night all the time but its not fun to be working in the dark with a flashlight. I drug everything on the porch one night last year and covered them with blankets. I guess I need to face reality that I will have to be doing this soon and clean out the garage finally.

I've been looking for a stemware dishwasher and this is the closest thing I've found that can be dually efficient. We entertain a lot and washing 30 or 40 glasses by hand is not something I relish! This one has 2 adjustable stemware shelves and a lower rack wineglass shelf. On the expensive side, but I think will be worth it every time I don't have to hand wash all of those wine glasses! I've learned that my friend has one and loves it.

Worried: I wouldn't call our relationship loveless. I love him very much. I believe he loves me. He says often enough and tenderly enough. Yes he has control issues and I have issues dealing with his control. But things have changed a lot since our confrontation and he does try to listen more. As for if I'm happy well at this time we're trying to deal with this situation so I wouldn't say there is a general feeling of happiness. But we're not directing the unhappiness toward each other. When he's not working we are together a lot. Problem is he's working a lot. Lucky for me that whether he's really working is easy for me to know the reason for his trip is work. That doesn't really prove whether he could be cheating although when I've asked him if he is/has he says no. He doesn't act withdrawn but I'm aware that he still could be. I enjoy being with him and he seems to enjoy being with me. Our sex life is everything I could want and he sure seems satisfied too. But he is also very affectionate outside of sex. I pretty much can't keep my hands off him and if ever want to get him to not act angry just touching him usually does it. Doesn't change his mind much but does change his demeanor. But he doesn't speak roughly to me often anyway. Like I said in my first post I almost wish he didn't treat me in the manner that he does because then I could easier resist him. Thanks to Mkroop for pointing that out as manipulation but Lawd! It's still hard to resist him even when armed with that knowledge. Granted in the past that has been because I just let him have his way but that has changed some too. I guess I really need to look up that word narcissistic to see what else is involved other than control. One positive I have gotten from all of your posts is speaking up for myself and not being afraid to oppose him. I don't know what my fear was with that other than not wanting to be a nag for fear it would drive us apart and our marriage wouldn't last. I remember hearing one of my sisters say that he husband was the boss until she started having kids. Now she is definitely the queen bee so I guess there's hope for me yet. This post was edited by wifey1281 on Wed, Dec 5, 12 at 7:32