Why would it seem shady to leave? You signed a month to month agreement with a 60 day notice to vacate. Give your 60 day notice and find something that works for you. You are within your legal rights to do so.

If you feel a moral obligation to stay, try switching rooms as your roommate suggested, and see if everybody is satified with that arrangment.

You don't have problems with the your room mate and.. "My roommate has offered to switch rooms and is researching the association by-laws, but I'm just not comfortable and feel I'm caught in the middle of some drama."

It isn't her fault the upstairs neighbor is a jerk and she is trying. If you get along living with her, and it sounds like you do, switch room with her as she suggested. It sounds to me like she likes you and is willing to do what it takes to keep you. That is a good thing that says a lot about both of you.

Unless you can afford your own place, your only other option is to find a another room to rent, on a top floor and hope you can live with the person you rent the room from.

Thank you both for your reply. I've thought about this, and I'm realizing that the roommate thing is something I haven't done in a while, and thus I'm unable to (re)adapt to.

Aside from this drama with the upstairs neighbor, my roommate has some sort of relationship with one of the male neighbors in the building (I came home one time to see them both looking like deer caught in headlights emerging from her room, and she shared the unsolicited steamy details with me later). We had just gone over a contract that she drafted indicating that neither of us needs permission to invite guests over, which I understood since it's her place. However, a week later, one of her dates called around 9pm to say he was in the neighborhood and she let him come in. I left my room to get something from the kitchen, and found the two of them kissing on her couch. After this guy left, the male neighbor she had been intimate with came by.

I realize this is her place, but I feel like she's still living somewhat like she doesn't have a roommate, but wants to hold on to the benefits of someone helping to alleviate the bills. While I've considered trying to see if things can be talked and worked out, again I realize that I'm at a point in my life where I have to either be very in-sync with a roommate or living by myself.

Another long message, but it's been therapeutic for me all the same to get this out.

This doesn't sound like a good situation at all.

Many years ago I shared a 2-bdrm place with a friend. She had a boyfriend who was a nice guy but he was over ALL the time.

He and my roommate would hog the living room every evening for hours. I was forced to either stay in the kitchen or my bedroom. That got really old. Especially when he wasn't contributing to any of the household expenses. I found another place and moved out.

This girl is going to have a tough time selling the condo let alone keeping a roommate. Not your problem though. If it were me, I'd cut my losses and give her notice. There are better rooming situations than this.

Thanks for replying. This might have been something I could have lived with when I was younger, but I'm just not down with it anymore. It's my life and I'm taking control.

I'd move, it sounds miserable. Good thing you had the foresight to do a monthly lease.

This is nothing, I live near a college,so we had college kids partying in our building until 4am every single night.One night they busted a window out in the lobby with a beer bottle.
I finally drew the line the day i found a bloody syringe laying just outside my window(I have a daughter who could have picked it up!)along with about 50 beer cans. If they are going to be immature and shoot up they can at least dispose of their evidence.
I complained and the rental office said they have had so many complaints already and got kicked out.Then I was outside with my daughter one day and some guy approached me and asked if I wanted to buy some weed.And this was one of the nicer apartment complexes in a pretty uptight neighboorhood! Kinda made me wonder how these spoiled college kids and drug dealers can afford to live there.
We have since moved to a not quite as big place,but no one bothers us at all here really,and it is so much quieter!
Honestly though,if your roomate would just chill out,the problems with the neighboor would probably fade in time.But i cant blame you if you want to move,and your roomate shouldnt either.