Rude and mean neighbors
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Comments (27)I've resisted posting so far, but decided to chime in. I don't think the neighbor is being rude as much as inconsiderate. There's not a huge difference in the meanings, and maybe it won't help your peace of mind to think of it that way, but there's a difference to me and it helps me to stay calm when I look at it that way. Maybe part of it is because a few years ago, I was the inconsiderate neighbor. I had a very weedy lawn, but I was working long hours and traveling a lot and didn't have time to devote to the lawn. I also had a much larger lawn than most in the area. It's 4k sq ft, which is small compared to many areas, but that's a lot of grass in the desert. My next door neighbor had a front lawn that was immaculate. It was also probably less than 100 sq ft. I know I drove him nuts. He gave me advice for fixing my lawn once, but I shrugged it off, much like your neighbor. I've since learned that it was bad advice, anyway. He kept his postage stamp lawn green by constant watering, lots of fertilizer and weeding several times a day. I have since eliminated almost all of my weeds, mostly through cultural practices. The few that crop up are dealt with with a weed hound. I rarely if ever use any chemicals on the lawn. The main things I did were that I started mowing the grass high, watering deeply and infrequently, mulch mowing, adding coffee grounds when I could get them. Keeping the soil healthy seems to keep the lawn healthy. So now, I'm the one with the nice lawn and my neighbors are the ones with the problems. I ended up asking one neighbor to please stop watering so much (I'm in the desert, but the biggest problem most lawns have is too much water and my neighbor was watering so much that I was developing a moss problem). Another neighbor was mowing past the lot line into my lawn (not such a big deal) and mowing way too short (bigger deal). I asked him to either raise the deck of his mower or stop at the lot line and explained why. He said it made sense and ended up doing both. I think if you get your soil healthy, you should be able to keep the problems at bay. Now for some off topic comments. rcnaylor said. "you catch more flies with honey than vinegar." For years (decades?) I haven't been able to read that without thinking of the Cheers episode with Woody Boyd turning and responding (with a perfectly straight face), "If it's flies you're after, nothing beats a dead horse." Jimtnc--There's no need to feel old. Isn't that style of programming aimed at the younger generation? I'm sure I saw a commercial where the tagline was "Silly Rabbit. CICS are for kids."...See MoreGift from a Well-Meaning Neighbor
Comments (11)@ Garden Graphic Gal-- Thank you for the link, that's what I was looking for. My neighbor is "not" a gardener, she says she can't grow dirt but she does love having tea with me in the middle of my garden and she has helped me pull weeds before. She purchased the rose for me because she wanted to do something nice, knows I love my gardening and said I didn't have any roses. One question that has now come up is that if it has been sitting in the original package for 3 weeks with nothing done to it, will it still grow? I didn't mean for it to happen, but I have been out of town for 2 weeks taking care of legal business and the death of my best friend in another part of the state and the bare root rose is still on the shelf in the garage. Will it still work if I soak it and get it in the ground this week? Dora @bagsmom - I am not opposed to using Bayer all in one if it works well. Right now, I need effective and simple. Thanks for the tip :)...See MoreNoise from neighbors below, landlord being rude
Comments (21)Glad I found this site as I'm having issues with my downstairs neighbors. I moved into my apartment two years ago. It's the second floor apartment in an older house. The other apartment is on the first floor. The couple that live there are in their early 70's but the guy thinks he's still in his twenties. He spends all his free time working on his truck or washing it. Now I have no problem with someone taking care of their vehicle but what I do have is someone having no respect for someone else's property. This guy washes his and his wife's trucks EVERY day. I'm not kidding. When I'm not home, he'll park his truck in my spot and wash it so when I get home, my space is full of puddles that I have to walk through. If I am home, he pulls his truck up right along side mine and as he's hosing down his vehicle, the water is spraying all over mine. The sun dries the water spots and they're hard to remove, especially on the windshield. He also parks his truck so that the hitch ball hangs over onto my parking spot which is directly behind his. He has plenty of room to pull up and not be so close to my spot. It's hard enough squeezing into my space because there is a tree behind it and a wall along one side (part of a building). The second issue I have is that he plays 60's music 24/7. I have gotten up at 2 or 3 in the morning to use the bathroom and the music is playing. It's loud enough that I can name every song and sometimes he turns it up loud enough that my coffee table vibrates. Asking him to lower it does no good because another neighbor told me that the guy that lived in my apartment before me went downstairs and knocked on the neighbor's door to ask him to lower the music. The neighbor wouldn't answer so he asked him from outside the door. When that didn't work, he went back downstairs and knocked again. This time, the neighbor opened the door, swore at him, and punched him in the face. In fact, the neighbor told me this himself. It was like he was giving me a warning not to complain about his music. My landlord is completely useless; he knows he plays the music and he can see him washing his car every day (the landlord has a business on the first floor opposite the neighbor's apt). I'm a single girl living alone and I don't like confrontation, especially since this guy has a chip a mile long on his shoulder and is always ready for a fight. I have been living with it for two years and telling myself that maybe he doesn't realize he's spraying my car or that he's parking with part of his hitch in my spot (though he can easily see it when he sits on his deck every night) but it upsets me anyway. This past week I bought a new SUV. I went out early yesterday figuring he'll wash his truck while I'm gone. I got home and parked my car and a half hour later he came out and started washing his right next to mine and sprayed my new SUV all over except for the driver's side. I was furious. The only thing I can do to get some satisfaction is to wait until he washes his car and then go outside and wash mine next to his so that his vehicle will be sprayed. Then if he comes out and says something, I can explain that the same thing happens to my car when he washes his truck. If that doesn't work, then I have more vengeful ideas though he wouldn't know they came from me....See MoreMy Neighbors are very rude and irrespectful...are they racist??
Comments (27)Who knows? The reasons don't really matter in the end. For the past few years I've lived in a predominantly black neighborhood with SO. Our neighbors have had mixed reactions to me. Some are friendly, some are downright rude. (Mostly females) I have been told to my gave that they didn't like me because I was a "stringy haired white *itch stealing their men" Now we moved to a more rural,mostly white part outside of town,and it's no better. The people across the road from us had taken to firing their guns for no reason. Another neighbor told me when I asked about it that they were doing it because we were an interracial couple and wanted to scare us into moving away. When they did it again one day, SO solved the problem by firing HIS rifle into the targets behind our house until the clip was empty. We haven't heard anything from them since. On another occasion,we stopped by a local dollar store to get light bulbs and while waiting to check out, the man in front of us looked at us,said nothing,but reached down and rolled up his pants leg to reveal a huge tattoo on the back of his leg of a man hanging from a tree. Subtle. I think i preferred the direct approach we got in the more civilized city neighborhood. But in the end, as long as they don't cause any real trouble, or set foot on our land,who cares. The reason we moved out there was to get farther away from people anyway,and we have enough land to to just that. In your case, it seems to be causing you problems. I personally wouldn't care about the car wash thing, but if someone were leaving trash on my property,I would have a big problem with that, whether they were doing it because they were racist or simply because they are a-holes. Just remember, all racists are a holes but not all a holes are racist....See Moreorganic_farmer_bob
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