Yes, avoid matching! If it's a perfect color match, you don't notice the specialness of the tile. If it's a bit off, and it usually will be, then it looks like an oops.

I would not use a fixture with exposed bulbs unless you have other sources of light for the area. Exposed bulbs as task lighting produces glare and is visually uncomfortable.

Our room is about 8x10, but it’s a mystery - we currently have two WAC light bars (2000 lumens each) and 4 Lithonia retrofits at 800 or 900 lumens each all 3000K and 90+ CRI and on dimmers, so it should be more than enough, but the light in there is just bad, so bad that I don’t even like being in there. My hope is that raising the ceiling (fingers crossed that works), doing a different layout of recessed lighting and moving the light bars from above the mirrors to vertical on the sides will help. The ceilings are about 7.5 ft and there’s something about the light hitting the top of your head from such a short distance that is all sorts of wrong.

Exactly what kjs said ^^. Put the lights near your kitchen counters (lower right of the plans) with lights centered over countertop edges, and almost everything else as shown in the second drawing. The only thing I might omit in that case would be the "path" lights between the island and the dining area, at least on the side toward the range.