Kat, I have no clue if I got your email. My husband put a new program in the computer and it changed the email and I am still trying to figure everything out. I am no good with computers. Could you send it again? Ariel

I live in Canada and it's best to simply follow whatever that particular family is doing. If they have on shoes you keep your shoes/sandals on. If they have a shoes off at the front door rule then you can simply remove them I would say though if you are wearing socks accompanied with your shoes then keep your socks on, if you want to go barefoot then wear sandals or wear your shoes without socks. My Mom moved her accounting business back to home from a rented unit and we see about 10 to 15 clients daily, and in the Summer months many of them arrive wearing sandals. While personally I would prefer them wearing socks when they remove their foot wear it doesn't bother me very much It's not offensive if they take them off at the front because thats what we want them to do but it;s better that they wear socks. Personally I don't go barefoot in anyone elses homes, unless I know they have carpeting. My feet sweat too much in sandals and when I walk on hardwood or tile floors they make that sitcky sound everytime I take a step, which is why I wonder why my Mom's clients would show up with sandals knowing that they must remove it. Since thats a problem for me I almost always hear my clients feet making the same sticky sound on our tile floors and to me it's downright embarrasing.

We can often have so many problems on the internet. We all make our own statements, reply, then suddenly there are problems. Person "A" said something that I did not pay much attention to. Person "B" said something that I can really comment on. There is nothing wrong with my response to Person "B", but suddenly Person "A" who I have long forgotten about is as angry as can be. What I have said in my response to Person "B" has been considered an insult by Person "A". Everything is twisted and distorted, and a disagreement begins. If you stayed with my logic above, my solution has been to try to pay more attention to those who post even when those posts don't concern me, and then to mention names when I specifically respond. I also try to explain myself a little better to keep from accidentally flaming a person. One more thing is that I need to be very clear when I don't want criticism. Sometimes when I ask for suggestions, I only want suggestions for one thing. If I don't make that clear, I can get really offended if I think that someone is trying to tell me how to live or how to feel. Vickie, I doubt if you have ever been a troll. Trolls intend to be disruptive. What you have described is just an internet problem. Sammy

I'm sorry I probably didn't make it clear enough. We don't owe the state 45k. She owes US 45K. When we sent him to her in desparation to keep us safe, she applied for welfare, and we had to pay the tab of $1000.00 a month for 8 months. Now that *poor* Christopher is back, gramma wants us to pay up too. And since BM doesn't work and her income can't be contributed to his support, we foot the whole bill. She does not need the money, but wants us to pay for putting him through trauma. How about the trauma caused to all of us? I don't know how he always comes out smelling like a rose and we're the ones who get the thorns. We do have an attorney, but I'm afraid it isn't going to do us any good. Like she said "the state only looks at the welfare of the child in question. Not the ones who will suffer because of it" Thank you for your nice notes. and theotherside is right, arrears can not be discharged. Can you immagine the bankruptcy rate if it could? lol