Take a cabinet door off and go to a flooring showroom. The cabinets will reflect some of the surrounding color, and will appear to change color as a result. Colors you may rule out might actually work if everything blends well. Those that suggest almost black or anthracite or even white are making the assumption that you love your cabinet color so much that you don't want to alter the look of the cabinet at all - even with nothing more than reflected light.
People tend to accessorize with silver and black because "it goes with everything" - when the truth is silver reflects everything, and black reflects some (if glossy) or nothing (if flat) - but neither change the tone of the primary color of the setting (or outfit). Accessorizing or complementing one color with another takes nothing more than trial and error. It's like wine. Expensive or cheap doesn't matter, if you don't like it!
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