If you are planning on selling soon, then you'll want to make your kitchen look as updated as possible. And you're right - oak cabinets just aren't going to do it.
One option could be to paint the cabinets a soft taupe like BM's Chocolate Mousse #1025 or a soft gray like BM's Nimbus #1465. Both of these will make your white appliances look planned and make your house stand out from the others on the market, while remaining essentially neutral.
Whatever color you choose, make sure to use a good primer first.
Best of luck with your project.
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