I prefer to apply enamel matt paints on oaks especially when want to apply dark colours. I don't think white wash is the right idea. Secondly, for the perfect coating and finish, I prefer to go with any kitchen restoration service like this. Nowadays, it is being preferred to paint kitchen cabins and furniture with spray gun and I also found its results very reliable.
By the way, dark grey and white could also be a good idea for oak cabinets:
Honey oak cabinets without any stain also look cool.
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